JL911 Posted October 20, 2009 Posted October 20, 2009 (edited) Started talking to this girl a couple months ago. We have now been dating now for the past few weeks very exclusivly and I feel I am starting to get to know her. We have recently opened up to sexual activity and well its good and according to her its very amazing...So I guess that cant hurt the situation. I can't help but feel that I am holding back my feelings just to kind of protect myself from rejection if it would occur since it is nice to have someone around and the sex is good, but I'm starting to feel like Id rather make or break the situation. She has told me she really likes me, and that she thinks about me throughout the day and it is very distracting to her...lol I have met her parents, and she has told me I am the only guy she has ever brought home to them. She has met mine as well so that is already out of the way and has been done. When we are together we act as if we are just that, together. Hold hangs, kiss, laugh, joke around, I literally cannot keep my hands off of her and always want to put my arms around her. We have a hard time leaving one another...If I take her home she has me come in and we lay around for hours talking...If shes at my place the same thing happens... I dont get into situations like this too often with women and always have felt as if I was the one being persued and then happen into a realtionship, but now I feel like I am going after something that I want for a change, and it is a little different. Im 26 shes 24 and feel like I am a little ackward shy boy in highschool right now...lol. I have never felt quite this way before when it came to someone I was seeing, I have always been a lot more collected about myself and I feel a bit out of control. The confusion is kinda overtaking me a bit. I cant help but feel like I have become hooked on her and got to know her very fast. Im just trying to figure out a way to tell her im interested in more than just a casual hanging out with her and the occasional sex without coming off as a complete wussy...lol Im just wondering if I should be open and honest with my intentions and just tell her im developing feelings for her and want to explore the possibilities and see where things go...I also wonder if saying this at this point is too soon... The other option is to just continue on with how things have been and just see if they work out themselves without having to say anything... Your thoughts... Edited October 20, 2009 by JL911
thatguy85 Posted October 20, 2009 Posted October 20, 2009 Thats a nice story man I'm happy for you. She's obviously digging you just as much you are for her. I mean, you both already met the parents, and are clearly infatuated. If it's clear to you how she feels, and it's clear for her how you feel just through actions, I'd just continue what you're doing. Have some fun for a while, and when the time is right, tell her how you feel. No one here on this forum, or anywhere for that matter will know when the time is right like you will. Just be yourself. If the sparks are there and trust is building up, she clearly ALREADY likes you for who you are, and if who you are is the kind of guy to just tell her how you feel, then just go for it. If you feel now is the time, then go for it! I'd just say though if it were me when you do go to tell her, ease into it. Kind of like... "Hey I know this is awkard, and hopefully it isn't too much... but I really like being with you and talking to you. I don't know what this is and I'm not used to it, but it feels really good". If her reaction is strong, you can spill your heart out more. If she kind of backs away, then you back off the subject. At least that's how I'd do it... but then again I'm just some guy.
torranceshipman Posted October 20, 2009 Posted October 20, 2009 She is clearly totally into you, and I bet anything she is hanging out for the 'be my girlfriend' line! Girls totally dig that and you'd be buying yourself major props from her AND her friends (friends will always be the one she goes to with problems, happy stories, etc, so it;s cool to have them onside)-and if she hears some cool words from you like 'will you be my girlfriend', or 'i hope we're boyf and girlf' or something, then it'll be EXACTLY what she wants to hear! You might feel like a wuss (lol...I know boys look at this differntly) but you'd make your girl happy...
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