DidiLU Posted October 20, 2009 Posted October 20, 2009 Quickly: I met someone a few weeks ago and since that meeting we've hooked up often. ( Sex without sex ) I've decided after previous failed attempts with men, to stay positive, calm, relaxed and pressure free and so far things have been great from both ends. Today I find myself suddenly missing him a lot. Last night ( we're on a team together ) I found myself feeling frustrated and then jealous when I suddenly noticed he wasn't acknowledging me but he was with everyone else ( no one on the team knows about us ) After the game we hung out and I felt happy to have time with him but frustrated that we had to go to our own homes. what do all these up and down emotions mean and how do I get myself back in check and not ruining this lovely idea of him in my life. Did I fall for him? Sometimes I wonder if I did, and if I did I know exactly when the possiblity would have happened.
bac Posted October 20, 2009 Posted October 20, 2009 I have no idea what "sex without sex' mean. But, from my point of view you are developing emotional attachment to him. The point is that you enjoy being with him, therefore, you are developing attachment. Another point is that you have these feelings because you are a girl. But, it is very questionable that he is able to develop the same feelings for you because he is a man. Men see girls from a different perspective not from a perspective of developing attachments and feelings. I am in 40s and I really do not know what to do about that because i have the same problem of developing attachment when I am with a guy who I really like. Infortunately, every time it turns out that I was the only one who had feelings. However, when I date a guy who I do not like, there is no problem with attachments.
Author DidiLU Posted October 20, 2009 Author Posted October 20, 2009 I'm not a girl, I am a woman in my 30s and he is a man in his almost 40s. Sex is not just about penetration. Thank you for replying, I would like more feedback from more men. What if I'm attached? I haven't told him. Suggestions on how to ride this wave for a bit?
torranceshipman Posted October 20, 2009 Posted October 20, 2009 You want this to be more than casual sex and currently...it isn't-and he is showing no sign of wanting more. So it's upsetting you. Decide what you want and then talk to him and if you aren't on the same page, end your hookups...
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