Author BlueHarvest Posted October 23, 2009 Author Posted October 23, 2009 IMO, considering the apparent reason for being on an online dating site, if there is rapport, there is no reason not to meet in person early-on, just for a casual coffee or lunch. No strings, no expectations; essentially, breaking the cycle of the day to share yourself for an hour with someone whom you seem to get along with. I met some really great ladies on the predecessors of 'those free sites' many years ago. Married one of them. It didn't work out long-term, but that in no way invalidates the process or the people. I'd have no problem doing it again. My advice would be to keep expectations low and just be and share yourself. Enjoy. Life's short Yea, I'm doing my best. Like I said though, they seem to flake whenever I show the slightest bit of recprical interest. This 3rd girl is now doing it. I expect to be deleting her number from my phone if I don't hear/recieve a text from her by Sunday. (I texted twice today. That's my limit for texting without any reply.) Only reason I did is because we've had previous conversations go on for awhile via text. We've chatted on the phone too. Haven't met in person, and I expressed interest to meet in person this week and she gave me her work schedule so I knew. Well...yea... Anyhow, I'm just getting a little fed up with the trend. Like I said, it's enough to make me want to give up.
aerogurl87 Posted October 23, 2009 Posted October 23, 2009 Every online dating site has wishy washy types. Before I got with my boyfriend I tried match.com and talked to a cool guy on there. Then we came off match and he emailed me on yahoo. Then one day it all stopped, no emails, no IMs, nada. We were even talking about meeting but hey he stopped emailing and after awhile I didn't care. The point is every place has flakes, fakes, and time wasters, but they also have good people who are worth your time. The hard part is finding those people, but once you do it'll probably be worth it.
carhill Posted October 23, 2009 Posted October 23, 2009 Anyhow, I'm just getting a little fed up with the trend. Like I said, it's enough to make me want to give up. Try looking at it another way. Revel in the reality that you don't have to spend one minute of your valuable time in real life with these people. They saved you that investment, which you can make in someone more compatible.
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