Tamia78 Posted October 20, 2009 Posted October 20, 2009 My ex and I are on another forum together, so now I have to see his posts every once in awhile (unless I put him on Ignore--I'm WAY too curious to do that right now.....yeah, I'm weak, I know ). I know he also checks my posts (only one had to do with him, and that was right when he broke up with me). Well, I read his latest post. It basically stated how happy he was, and that "it's nice not to feel bad about yourself all the time". He thinks I made him feel bad all the time? Oh, and his explanation as to why it didn't work out....."Some people just don't mix well". WTF?????? What kind of explanation is that? Keep in mind that he never gave me an explanation as to why he broke up with me. The post went on to talk about him dating again, and so on, and so forth. He's also planning on coming to a party in Dec he knows I'm coming to. Why do they do things to get your attention like that? I also know that I lied to myself and said I was happy to be without him when I really wasn't. Is this what he's trying to do as well? I've never mentioned that I was dating. He knows reading that would hurt my feelings. HE dumped ME. Why does he wanna get under my skin like that? Shouldn't he pretty much not care one way or the other? Another member here read her ex's Myspace Headlines, and they always mentioned a girl he was with. I'm sure that ex knows that she can at least read that much if his account is Private. Why do they WANT to hurt us so much if they are the ones who dumped us? Are they hurting just as much as we are? Is it some plot to make us try and talk to them so they can feel good at rejecting us again? I don't get it. If that's the case......that's really immature. Any ideas, LSers? --T
Ilovecake Posted October 20, 2009 Posted October 20, 2009 I'm in the same boat. I post on a forum my ex posts on as well. He was never as blatant as you describe your ex to be but he would posts things that only he knew would upset me or get my attention. I too had a hard time blocking him but finally after a private message fight we had I told him I’m blocking him (which I of course didn’t do) now that he thinks he’s blocked by me he hardly post there anymore. I asked him several times why he did that and every time he would just say well if you don’t like it stop posting there. Of course that was his answer to everything when we were together. If I tried to talk to him about something that was upsetting me he would always say well if you don’t like it you know where the door is. It’s really strange that a guy can have that attitude yet still try to get as much attention as possible from me. Some stupid people just want to have their cake and eat it too.
GrayClouds Posted October 20, 2009 Posted October 20, 2009 WHY do they do this? --T They do it to feel better at our expense, here is a surprise people can be petty and cruel, and not always with malice but from insecurity. Better question; why do we do this to ourselves? "Wow hitting myself with this hammer hurts.""So stop it" "Then it may stop hurting""Correct" "But then I wont have anything" This play was brought to you by "Stanly Hammers" and "The Guy with One in Each Hand"
angelface78 Posted October 20, 2009 Posted October 20, 2009 Tamia, I think youre talking about me. Yes my ex posts headlines saying how happy he is. He does this EVERYDAY. I basically get an agenda of his week. He knows its going to hurt me and still does it. I would never do that to him. I was with him for 5 Years and engaged. I really dont understand it. Its really painful but you know what everybody is right we are hurting ourselves by looking. Curiosity is a ****! Its hard not to look. My ex posts things like "im sooo happy with no problems" basically letting me know that when he was with me i was a problem and this new chick he is with gives him no problems. I dont know why he feels the need to put that out there. If a person is so happy and busy moving on they wouldnt bother with such childishness. Keep strong Tamia...these guys have no f***** respect..not for us...not even for themselves!
angelface78 Posted October 20, 2009 Posted October 20, 2009 (edited) Tamia, I think youre talking about me. Yes my ex posts headlines saying how happy he is. He does this EVERYDAY. I basically get an agenda of his week. He knows its going to hurt me and still does it. I would never do that to him. I was with him for 5 Years and engaged. I really dont understand it. Its really painful but you know what everybody is right we are hurting ourselves by looking. Curiosity is a ****! Its hard not to look. My ex posts things like "im sooo happy with no problems" basically letting me know that when he was with me i was a problem and this new chick he is with gives him no problems. I dont know why he feels the need to put that out there. If a person is so happy and busy moving on they wouldnt bother with such childishness. Keep strong Tamia...these guys have no f***** respect..not for us...not even for themselves! Out of all of us saying our exes are doing this my ex is the most blatant. He really wants to torture me. Its like hes a different person Edited October 20, 2009 by angelface78
Author Tamia78 Posted October 21, 2009 Author Posted October 21, 2009 Thanks, everyone. It just sounds like they do it to torture us. GC,....ignoring him is easier said than done, lol. On another note. He sent me an email this morning. He told me that I treated him like **** and Karma was coming to get me. Uh....what? If I remember correctly, he did break up with me. I'd like to email him back and ask when did I treat him that way (somewhere between paying his bills, loaning him money and buying him presents, I guess).......but I won't. Can't break NC. Yay, me! Guess he's mad I'm not calling him and crying every day for him. Who knows? I'm kinda happy he contacted me, to be honest. I know I shouldn't be, but it means that he's at least thinking about me, right! I'm going to stay strong. If I break NC, I don't think it would end well. --T
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