luvflower Posted October 29, 2009 Posted October 29, 2009 Muse, you sound like you really still care for this guy. But also, i think you're reacting due to the transitions in your life right now. I do think that his love for you turned a bit obssessive, but I think he really cared and now he is realizing that's he has lost you. Really there is nothing he can do to make you change your mind, but would you really want to get anything going with him at this point. Just think about it...
Angel1111 Posted October 29, 2009 Posted October 29, 2009 Congrats on the job! Now just sit back, lounge, and enjoy. Just believe in yourself and beautiful things will happen. Seriously. I'm sorry you're still struggling about the ex. I don't know what to tell you. If it helps, see him again and do whatever works until you get sick to death of him. Sometimes that's the only way to get someone out of our system. No judgement here - I know it's tough and it's like a rollercoaster ride - up and down and around until you want to puke (ok - I couldn't resist that). Anyway, I certainly hope you wallow happily in this new-found freedom of yours! I have faith that wonderful things are coming your way. Keep us informed. I usually only come back to look for your posts. I think about you and Heartford often (Heartford was the one in the other post you read). I feel like we're kindred spirits.
Author muse08 Posted October 29, 2009 Author Posted October 29, 2009 Congrats on the job! Now just sit back, lounge, and enjoy. Just believe in yourself and beautiful things will happen. Seriously. I'm sorry you're still struggling about the ex. I don't know what to tell you. If it helps, see him again and do whatever works until you get sick to death of him. Sometimes that's the only way to get someone out of our system. No judgement here - I know it's tough and it's like a rollercoaster ride - up and down and around until you want to puke (ok - I couldn't resist that). Anyway, I certainly hope you wallow happily in this new-found freedom of yours! I have faith that wonderful things are coming your way. Keep us informed. I usually only come back to look for your posts. I think about you and Heartford often (Heartford was the one in the other post you read). I feel like we're kindred spirits. angel, hey! good hearing from you. thanks for the congrats. you have no idea...i barely know what to do with myself really. been working the same job for while and being on such a rigid schedule, which i really didnt fancy at all, really turned me into a robot! so i'm taking time to read more, exercise more and stop to smell the roses, literally even.everything really does look, feel, sound and taste better when there's less stress in your life. as far as the ex goes...wellllll, we got back together............................. gotcha! just kidding, lol. i haven't seen him. not sure if i ever will see him again. really i can feel his animosity toward me through a text messages and his voice when he left me those voicemails.i have not answered his calls in about 2 weeks i believe...so i guess it's no wonder i feel animosity from him. what's equally weird is what i said about him saying he saw my car parked the days i was off of work and him not responding when i asked him was that him behind me on my way to work that morning. i really don't know what to do so i'm not going to initiate seeing him because i think that's tricky. he may have done anything to get over me. he did start drinking more once i broke up with him. he claimed he stopped around the time we met. but who knows now.i'm treading carefully. i just find it hard when i look around and remember how he used to be here with me and me there with him at his place and how i would make him smile or laugh.i could see the joy i brought to him.
Author muse08 Posted October 29, 2009 Author Posted October 29, 2009 so angel. how's everything w/you? where have you been? until you responded i' though you'd ran off with a man!! it's ok you can tell us...
Angel1111 Posted October 29, 2009 Posted October 29, 2009 so angel. how's everything w/you? where have you been? until you responded i' though you'd ran off with a man!! it's ok you can tell us... Well, you know - so many men, so little time. Hey, I just talked to you yesterday - what do you mean where have I been, silly girl? Well, it's true that I'm not here as much as I have been - just busy is all. Hey, seriously, enjoy your time away from the work world. If you can pull it off, start up an internet business of some kind and you won't have to get into the rat race anymore. The internet is a freakin' godsend to us all. I've heard of people doing all kinds of things - whatever your degree is in, I'll bet you can do it online. Lots of people even teach college courses online. Just get your head out of you a** and start thinkin', girl!
Author muse08 Posted October 29, 2009 Author Posted October 29, 2009 ur funny...you're right though. the Internet has limitless possibilities! trust me i have been thinking about that. ok, i think i'm ending this thread today.i don't want to keep feeding this issue any longer.but before i do, check this out. so this morning i had to text him because i'd realized i left 2 documents at his place that i needed to submit to my job to finalize my resignation. i texted asking if he saw the papers plz just let me know.if not don't worry about it. so he didn't respond yesterday when i said "i need to ask yo something". he responded 2day by calling rather than texting and trying to drag on the conversation. i cut it short b/c he started giving details that i really was annoyed by when i said bye. he said told me had something to tell me about, like it was crucial.so he started talking about getting a "free" blackberry phone from this lady in passing just "yesterday".he said he didn't know how to text on it yet and the phone was free blah blah blah...he just texted me yesterday. this is like the 3rd time (since we broke up)that he says he has gotten a FREE phone from someone (he typically says a female) and the phone always happens to be with his cell phone company...so weird. i think he expected me to ask who the lady was b/c i asked before when we were closer. this time,instead i just laughed and said good for you!i see you still don't like paying for phones...and left it at that. in retrospect, this was probably his main reason for calling me today rather than texting. i don't need to know the details of his life like that at this point...i think he's making this stuff up...
Angel1111 Posted October 29, 2009 Posted October 29, 2009 Well, I would respond to this but since you're closing the thread down.... You know, the guy is a real live fruitcake. I mean, 100% organic, no chemicals added, fruitcake. He is just making up this crap. And even if he isn't, who cares that he got a free phone from a woman? I mean, seriously. Can't he do better than that? That is so lame. No wonder you were annoyed - it was an insult to your intelligence. I'm curious - did he even bother to act interested in your job situation or anything else that wasn't about him? Did you get the papers?
Author muse08 Posted October 30, 2009 Author Posted October 30, 2009 Well, I would respond to this but since you're closing the thread down.... You know, the guy is a real live fruitcake. I mean, 100% organic, no chemicals added, fruitcake. He is just making up this crap. And even if he isn't, who cares that he got a free phone from a woman? I mean, seriously. Can't he do better than that? That is so lame. No wonder you were annoyed - it was an insult to your intelligence. I'm curious - did he even bother to act interested in your job situation or anything else that wasn't about him? Did you get the papers? wow, sorry i was busy all day finalizing some stuff for my job. lol...you are really funny. "fruitcake" yep. and i soooo hate fruitcake, really. yes,he actuaLLY asked me about my job situation b4 talking about himself 'cuz he keeps bringing up the fact that he saw my care parked at home during my work hours.(that's a bit interesting;like how many other times is he going to drive by coincidentally,when he just told me the other day that his company doesn't come out this way much at all anymore)anyhoo.he told me to keep him posted on how i'm doing...puhhh,whatever. but i said ok(whatever...). but this story he came up with doesnt sound true to me b/c it happens too frequently and i know how vindictive he is now.it's really silly. i'm starting another thread. i'd like us to keep in touch and want to read your wise to responses so look for me in a new location...most likely in "general relationship topics". i'm saying goodbye to this thread unless others comment. goodbye THREAD! i'm trying to move on...ciao! adios! as salaam alaikum! au revoir! Auf Wiedersehen! Doei!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! thanks
Angel1111 Posted October 30, 2009 Posted October 30, 2009 Sounds like he's doing drive-bys to see if you're seeing another guy. That's ok, let him. It helps to know they still care, even if the situation is hopeless. Ok, I look forward to your new thread. It's good to move on and create new things. Your life is a clear, beautiful highway stretching before you - no obstacles. Enjoy!
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