muse08 Posted October 20, 2009 Posted October 20, 2009 (this is long,but i really need someone to read and respond plz) I am really hurt right now... i'm feeling lost,confused,upset and depressed... I did NC w/my ex.it lasted about 7days. he kept calling and texting me everyday.yes i felt bad.now i feel worse b/c i've given him a chance to show how evil he can be. i did NC due to him being controlling and borderline obssessive and issues from his life that were affecting me.i had to let go.so i did... now though,since i finally responded he has been very spiteful and acted like nothing has happened.during NC he left messages like "i would never do this to you.i need to speak to you now.call me now."...etc. i called myself being fair and not leading him on by doing NC. the result is that he's really angry about it. is he bitter or is there something else i am missing?? he even made comments after hurting me(emotionally) once, "it doesn't feel good does it?" so 2 nites in a row he has stood me up when he was supposed to come see me and try talking about our relationship...last nite and just an hours ago. today he acted like nothing happened and that he just fell asleep yet he initiated seeing me...then he proceeded to call me during the day as if he wanted to antagonize me.i told him he could leave me alone but he still said he would call me anyway and would come by 2nite. yes i was silly for believing him this time and i'm upset and lost and hurt! i have been true to him and he thinks i'm just mean mainly b/c of the 7days of NC. he acts colder now and like he doesn't have a conscience.why did i believe him these 2 nights when i noticed how spiteful he'd become months ago?! i had already taken a day off from work b/c i've been trying to find another job. now i'm finding it harder to go back to this current job that i'm already unhappy with. i've had bouts w/depression but this situation is taking its toll. whenever a relationship w/a man doesn't work out i feel this emptiness thats so strong that i get down for days and right now i'm feeling like quitting my job and moving back home in a matter of days.home for me is several hours from where i am now,so i know it sounds a bit drastic but i'm in so much pain i can't deal with my job and these familiar surroundings. i realize that i have no choice but to really let him go and he may never call me again.he enjoys hurting me and i was only trying to be fair when i let him go.i never wanted to hurt him.he has never taken anything this far...so i know it's really over and i'm not sure where my emotions will take me through the nite.
NSW768 Posted October 20, 2009 Posted October 20, 2009 he scared, frustrated and right now toxic. you should continue NC as hard as it is, and maybe take a day off and make it a long weekend and go home for a bit. focus on yourself and getting that new job. its good to distance yourself from something like this for a moment and get your head strait. good luck
Author muse08 Posted October 20, 2009 Author Posted October 20, 2009 he scared, frustrated and right now toxic. you should continue NC as hard as it is, and maybe take a day off and make it a long weekend and go home for a bit. focus on yourself and getting that new job. its good to distance yourself from something like this for a moment and get your head strait. good luck thank you. i feel better already, but the confusion of why he would be so spiteful, is still with me.he thinks i was being selfish by breaking up... i never thought of him being scared.evil maybe, but not scared...just curious as to why he would be scared? thank you so much for your response.i'm in a bad way right now but each piece of insight helps me.
Author muse08 Posted October 20, 2009 Author Posted October 20, 2009 i just want to stop thinking about this situation.why does my stupid cell phone not provide number blocking services! i thought i cared for him.but when someone does something intentionally like this...how can i care for him. it's abusive and several people warned me that he would become this way. i now see it.i saw the signs a while ago but was distracted by ...life and him acting like he'd changed and really loved me. seems like lately,he just loves to hurt me..."it doesn't feel good does it?"...as if he's reprimanding me and i'm a child.
NSW768 Posted October 20, 2009 Posted October 20, 2009 its his last ditch effort. i did this after my breakup. i called her horrible names and said things that would make her hurt only the way i knew how. the reason hes doing it (and i did) is because he is scared, lonely, frustrated, angry, immature, scared and basically afraid he lost you. and he will feel bad about it eventually. and even if he doesnt that shouldnt concern you. get away from that negativity. im serious, i think you getting out, maybe taking some personal days to urself and leaving the cell and the computer at off would be the best move. dont even say anything to him about stopping or that your going NC. my ex said "do you think saying these things will make me want to come back" and that was the kick in the mouth for me. im not sure if that will work for you though. diffrent strokes. but i would say get out b4 you go nuts and ruin your chances at this new job.
Author muse08 Posted October 20, 2009 Author Posted October 20, 2009 thanks for the response. you're right i do need to get out and go home for a bit. not sure if i can afford to though, but i am taking some days from work. still no word from him as i predicted. (wow...as i typed he just called).amazing...this is what he does. he's haunting me as someone told me he would do if i didn't let him go. this has to be it...i'm done with all this pain and emotional roller coaster riding. why do some men do that ? act out like this rather than saying how they feel. it would get much more respect and he would keep my attention,but mess like this is a complete turn off and makes me completely lose trust for him. i'm going to try and deal with my emotions now and try to maintain my sanity...
Author muse08 Posted October 20, 2009 Author Posted October 20, 2009 its his last ditch effort. i did this after my breakup. i called her horrible names and said things that would make her hurt only the way i knew how. the reason hes doing it (and i did) is because he is scared, lonely, frustrated, angry, immature, scared and basically afraid he lost you. and he will feel bad about it eventually. and even if he doesnt that shouldnt concern you. get away from that negativity. im serious, i think you getting out, maybe taking some personal days to urself and leaving the cell and the computer at off would be the best move. dont even say anything to him about stopping or that your going NC. my ex said "do you think saying these things will make me want to come back" and that was the kick in the mouth for me. im not sure if that will work for you though. diffrent strokes. but i would say get out b4 you go nuts and ruin your chances at this new job. btw...this morning i texted to him what you mentioned, "do you think that (treating me like this) is goning to make me wanna come back?" and that's when he responded.i hadnt heard anything from him until then.it's crazy...he's been calling and texting ALL day. i deleted all the messages before reading them.i didn't even want to hear anything he had to say b/c he's likely to say something to try to "get at me" and make me want to respond. so i'd rather not know what he's been saying on the messages...i guess.just wondering if he would go as far as to make any threats.i know for sure that he's upset about our break up and it's bringing out a really evil streak in him that i have never seen.so in those regards i'm a little concerned to be honest. the other (only)time i went NC he was saying things like he was going to come to my place after he got off work and i still never responded, but he never came. another LS memeber mentioned that he sounds just like her ex who ended up being physically abusive to her. my ex has become more and more emotionally abusive i will say, but hasn't done anything physical[he did block me from leaving his apartment once before.this went on for about 15 minutes.i couldn't believe him.he said he didn't want me to leave]. in conversation with him a few weeks ago while discussing some of his behavior he made the comment "i can't CHOKE you and make you see me, call..."...can't remember the last part,but it struck me as being a weird choice word, CHOKE...?i mentioned it to my girlfriend that day 'cause it was bugging me a bit. i won't make this too long, but feel free to read my previous threads about him and his personality and our break-up. thanks 4 listening.
JaggedRoad Posted October 20, 2009 Posted October 20, 2009 (edited) i just want to stop thinking about this situation.why does my stupid cell phone not provide number blocking services! i thought i cared for him.but when someone does something intentionally like this...how can i care for him. it's abusive and several people warned me that he would become this way. i now see it.i saw the signs a while ago but was distracted by ...life and him acting like he'd changed and really loved me. seems like lately,he just loves to hurt me..."it doesn't feel good does it?"...as if he's reprimanding me and i'm a child. It doesn't matter what other people have said. Your ex is being insensitive, but so are you if you are thinking this way. What if no one warned you about how he may react? And what if he reacted differently? Would you suddenly run back to him because you admire the way he handled the situation? He has no excuse for his actions, but do try to understand him. Like NSW said, your ex is scared. People do stupid and irrational things when they are scared. There is no guarantee that he "loves to hurt you." Don't assume. If you want to judge him (I would say don't), judge only his present self now by his current actions. Do not let his current actions corrupt what he was before all of this happened. The past is the past. And do not try to predict what he may be like in the future based on his current behavior. What you are witnessing now is your ex in emotional turmoil. Leave him alone for a while and maybe--just maybe--he'll snap out of his stupor. Edited October 20, 2009 by JaggedRoad
Author muse08 Posted October 21, 2009 Author Posted October 21, 2009 (edited) It doesn't matter what other people have said. Your ex is being insensitive, but so are you if you are thinking this way. What if no one warned you about how he may react? And what if he reacted differently? Would you suddenly run back to him because you admire the way he handled the situation? He has no excuse for his actions, but do try to understand him. Like NSW said, your ex is scared. People do stupid and irrational things when they are scared. There is no guarantee that he "loves to hurt you." Don't assume. If you want to judge him (I would say don't), judge only his present self now by his current actions. Do not let his current actions corrupt what he was before all of this happened. The past is the past. And do not try to predict what he may be like in the future based on his current behavior. What you are witnessing now is your ex in emotional turmoil. Leave him alone for a while and maybe--just maybe--he'll snap out of his stupor. jaggedroad i can appreciate what you're saying. this situation has brought out things in both of us.he has reacted to the break up and i have reacted to his actions,due to the breakup...this is why it has to stop at some point.otherwise it's a viscous cycle. i have often thought about his feelings,which only made me weak and respond to his calls and/or textes. however, he has taken things to another level by intentionally setting me up,i.e. disappointing me, sometimes ignoring me when i have communicated with him,etc...then only saying things like "it doesn't feel good does it" with this stoic expression. when he makes comments like that, he is referring to the NC period, so there you go! i completely agree with NC,but some people like my ex do not take no for an answer well,if at all...point blank. he has no choice but to accept the way things are now.however,he once had an altercation w/ a coworker and he was bothered by it for days.so he said one evening to me "i can actually get him back and not have to do it myself." he is VERY spiteful now and unpredictable and these are the type of things that CONCERN me...concern... i have a right to be concerned.sorry if you call it "judging" but i only see it as discernment,which i'm thankful for. he is displaying very passive aggressive behavior IMO. BEFORE this issue,he told me that one of his ex's blamed him for leaving her vehicle unlocked and causing it to get broken into and stripped down...mind you,this was sometime after things got a bit rocky for them...when i reflect on different things like this i make connections.i can't say it enough...MY EX IS VERY SPITEFUL! trust me on this one.if i put every little incident into this thread you'd be reading until morning.so try to realize,there are details that you are not privy to.btw,he told me about these incidents i'm telling you about prior to our break up.maybe he called himself trying to warn me or put fear in my heart, i don't know...i don't have fear though, only...concern i do appreciate your viewpoint.thanks. Edited October 21, 2009 by muse08
JaggedRoad Posted October 21, 2009 Posted October 21, 2009 jaggedroad i can appreciate what you're saying. this situation has brought out things in both of us.he has reacted to the break up and i have reacted to his actions,due to the breakup...this is why it has to stop at some point.otherwise it's a viscous cycle. i have often thought about his feelings,which only made me weak and respond to his calls and/or textes. however, he has taken things to another level by intentionally setting me up,i.e. disappointing me, sometimes ignoring me when i have communicated with him,etc...then only saying things like "it doesn't feel good does it" with this stoic expression. when he makes comments like that, he is referring to the NC period, so there you go! i completely agree with NC,but some people like my ex do not take no for an answer well,if at all...point blank. he has no choice but to accept the way things are now.however,he once had an altercation w/ a coworker and he was bothered by it for days.so he said one evening to me "i can actually get him back and not have to do it myself." he is VERY spiteful now and unpredictable and these are the type of things that CONCERN me...concern... i have a right to be concerned.sorry if you call it "judging" but i only see it as discernment,which i'm thankful for. he is displaying very passive aggressive behavior IMO. BEFORE this issue,he told me that one of his ex's blamed him for leaving her vehicle unlocked and causing it to get broken into and stripped down...mind you,this was sometime after things got a bit rocky for them...when i reflect on different things like this i make connections.i can't say it enough...MY EX IS VERY SPITEFUL! trust me on this one.if i put every little incident into this thread you'd be reading until morning.so try to realize,there are details that you are not privy to.btw,he told me about these incidents i'm telling you about prior to our break up.maybe he called himself trying to warn me or put fear in my heart, i don't know...i don't have fear though, only...concern i do appreciate your viewpoint.thanks. Ok... you're definitely right about your ex being passive aggressive. And I'm honestly disturbed by his passive aggressiveness even though I am one myself. Is he a pisces by any chance? Maybe you should change numbers x_x
Author muse08 Posted October 21, 2009 Author Posted October 21, 2009 honestly,i don't know how long i can do this NC because i sincerely care for him, no matter what some people here may think. i have feelings to. dumpers have feelings too! however, i care for my sanity too much to keep allowing him to play these mind games with me and keep wrecking my peace... that's real...
Author muse08 Posted October 21, 2009 Author Posted October 21, 2009 Ok... you're definitely right about your ex being passive aggressive. And I'm honestly disturbed by his passive aggressiveness even though I am one myself. Is he a pisces by any chance? Maybe you should change numbers x_x well he's not quite a pisces, but close. he's a capricorn. i refuse to change my number.i just changed it b/c of another guy a yr ago. so i will just have to deal w/this and hope that he doesn't get extreme or violent or psychotic...but i'm telling you his stoicism and semingly lack of remorse is an indicator of his potential, IMO...
JaggedRoad Posted October 21, 2009 Posted October 21, 2009 I really admire your concern for your ex. I don't really have any advice, but I wish you the best =)
Angel1111 Posted October 21, 2009 Posted October 21, 2009 I think in the back of your mind you were hoping that NC would make him see the light as to how stupid he is, and now you're surprised that it only seems to have made him even more stupid. The problem is, you're dealing with an abusive personality and there is no fix for this. They're behavior is erratic, volatile and inexplicable. You were right on target when you made the decision to go NC. Just lose this guy because he is nothing short of bad news. He will wreck your life if you let him. And the next time any guy tries to make you feel bad when HE is the one who has screwed up, take note and disappear. Do not EVER put up with this nonsense and do not EVER let someone put you down like this. He's a freaking fruitcake and you don't need this in your life. Change your life, change you number, change your address - whatever it takes to get away from him. As far as quitting your job, I'd be very careful about this. Do you have financial obligations? Are you sure it's ok for you to go home? What will you do if you can't find a job for awhile? You need to answer these questions before you leave your job. As they say, it's always easier to find a job when you're already employed. Be sure you don't burn any bridges.
Angel1111 Posted October 21, 2009 Posted October 21, 2009 thank you. i feel better already, but the confusion of why he would be so spiteful, is still with me.he thinks i was being selfish by breaking up... i never thought of him being scared.evil maybe, but not scared...just curious as to why he would be scared? thank you so much for your response.i'm in a bad way right now but each piece of insight helps me. Stop wasting your time trying to figure him out - that's exactly what he wants you to do, which is why he flip-flops from one mood to the other. He's putting the blame on you in order to take the focus off of what he has done - and it seems to be working because you're more worried about why he thinks badly of you than why he's acting like a mental case. People like this are constantly in fear because they fear losing control, fear losing people, fear life in general. His obsession with you is not a compliment. These guys are nothing but cowards and they get a rush out of controlling others. Don't feel sorry for him. He's playing games with you.
Angel1111 Posted October 21, 2009 Posted October 21, 2009 btw...this morning i texted to him what you mentioned, "do you think that (treating me like this) is goning to make me wanna come back?" and that's when he responded.i hadnt heard anything from him until then.it's crazy...he's been calling and texting ALL day. i deleted all the messages before reading them.i didn't even want to hear anything he had to say b/c he's likely to say something to try to "get at me" and make me want to respond. so i'd rather not know what he's been saying on the messages...i guess.just wondering if he would go as far as to make any threats.i know for sure that he's upset about our break up and it's bringing out a really evil streak in him that i have never seen.so in those regards i'm a little concerned to be honest. the other (only)time i went NC he was saying things like he was going to come to my place after he got off work and i still never responded, but he never came. another LS memeber mentioned that he sounds just like her ex who ended up being physically abusive to her. my ex has become more and more emotionally abusive i will say, but hasn't done anything physical[he did block me from leaving his apartment once before.this went on for about 15 minutes.i couldn't believe him.he said he didn't want me to leave]. in conversation with him a few weeks ago while discussing some of his behavior he made the comment "i can't CHOKE you and make you see me, call..."...can't remember the last part,but it struck me as being a weird choice word, CHOKE...?i mentioned it to my girlfriend that day 'cause it was bugging me a bit. i won't make this too long, but feel free to read my previous threads about him and his personality and our break-up. thanks 4 listening. It's just a matter of time before he became violent. If any man ever blocks you again from leaving, stay put - but when you have the chance to leave, leave for good. That is abuse and it's controlling. The thing he said about choking you was a not-so-veiled threat at physical violence. It was designed to frighten you and he was testing you to see if he can get away with that, then he'll get away with violence. These guys are very methodical. He'll become a sheep now because he's losing the game. But if he ever got you back, he'd turn on his 'charm' full-force.
Angel1111 Posted October 21, 2009 Posted October 21, 2009 He has no excuse for his actions, but do try to understand him. Like NSW said, your ex is scared. People do stupid and irrational things when they are scared. There is no guarantee that he "loves to hurt you." Don't assume. If you want to judge him (I would say don't), judge only his present self now by his current actions. Do not let his current actions corrupt what he was before all of this happened. The past is the past. And do not try to predict what he may be like in the future based on his current behavior. What you are witnessing now is your ex in emotional turmoil. Leave him alone for a while and maybe--just maybe--he'll snap out of his stupor. This is exactly what gets women in trouble with abusive men - trying to be understanding. The guy is an abuser and it has nothing to do with him being scared or going through emotional turmoil. These guys are forever in some kind of emotional turmoil and they have no control over their emotions whatsoever. She left him because he's a fruitcake. She doesn't need to understand anything else.
Author muse08 Posted October 21, 2009 Author Posted October 21, 2009 (edited) Stop wasting your time trying to figure him out - that's exactly what he wants you to do, which is why he flip-flops from one mood to the other. He's putting the blame on you in order to take the focus off of what he has done - and it seems to be working because you're more worried about why he thinks badly of you than why he's acting like a mental case. People like this are constantly in fear because they fear losing control, fear losing people, fear life in general. His obsession with you is not a compliment. These guys are nothing but cowards and they get a rush out of controlling others. Don't feel sorry for him. He's playing games with you. you're on point and i know it. sometimes too much feedback is not good.i completely appreciate other comments from people,but my first instinct was to let him go months ago. usually when i get that itch to break up it's for good reason. uncertainty to me means it needs to be left alone. he always tries to flip the script and put blame on me for something,when i call him on the carpet. anytime a man calls and textes his woman literally like 10 times or more while she is at work and tells her to call him now or gets upset b/c she cant when he knows she is at work and is actively engaged with people throughout her entire day...there is a serious problem. this was my first RED LIGHT. he would do nice things constantly.nice at first but i eventually saw the nice deeds as distraction tactics,really. he moved to fast. a.tried getting me prego SEVERAL times in different ways(within first 3 months of relationship) even after i told him that i wasnt trying to get prego.thankfully i never did... b.wanted us to live together and proposed to me within 6 months(not that crazy i guess...) c.never wanted me to sleep w/out him.would not go to his place unless i sat w/him for several minutes explaining to him that i deserved some uninterrupted sleep. d.he tells is mother and aunt about our details.allowed one of them to talk to me like i was a bad person or his wife.all jokes aside,she was disrespectful and it took everything in my bones to refrain from cursing her out.right after we broke up with i agreed to go with him to drop off something at his aunt's house,who i never met before mind you.she walks outside and up to me,looking at me straight up and down "what is this i hear about you 2having problems and you hurting my nephew?you know your 2 faiths don't work anyway." this dude just stood there and didn't say a word.i told her that was her opinion and it is what it is.[truthfully,i wanted to reach out and slap this short plump rolly polly,but i try to respect my elders].the only thing my ex said was "well baby you gotta think about how you hurt me". so CHECK THIS OUT>> so he calls himself standing up for me when we left his aunt(but not in her face).he tells her he didn't appreciate her disrespecting me like she did.she gets livid and tells him,"you better be glad you have somebody(her) to take up for you!".he didnt say anything back to her.this is how he is.mind you,he is 30 yrs old, not 10... these are the type of things that i put up with for too long, in our relationship and during the breakup period.i've grown tired.wanted to make it work...but honestly there's little hope that he will grow a backbone or shake his spitefullness anytime soon. Edited October 21, 2009 by muse08
Author muse08 Posted October 21, 2009 Author Posted October 21, 2009 This is exactly what gets women in trouble with abusive men - trying to be understanding. The guy is an abuser and it has nothing to do with him being scared or going through emotional turmoil. These guys are forever in some kind of emotional turmoil and they have no control over their emotions whatsoever. She left him because he's a fruitcake. She doesn't need to understand anything else. fa sho! well put! i try to be diplomatic, but when my sanity and peace are at stake...i have little understanding.
Angel1111 Posted October 21, 2009 Posted October 21, 2009 My ex had called me once and left a message on my voicemail that was pretty rude (because he didn't get an immediate response). I called him when I had the chance and he sarcastically asked why I hadn't called. "Because I was in the middle of an interview and I had my phone turned off," I said. Idiot. "Oh," he said. He had forgotten. These guys are such mental cases. There are no words. Thank GOD you didn't have any kids with that man - you would be tied to him for life. I didn't have any kids with my ex either and I am so thankful.
Author muse08 Posted October 21, 2009 Author Posted October 21, 2009 My ex had called me once and left a message on my voicemail that was pretty rude (because he didn't get an immediate response). I called him when I had the chance and he sarcastically asked why I hadn't called. "Because I was in the middle of an interview and I had my phone turned off," I said. Idiot. "Oh," he said. He had forgotten. These guys are such mental cases. There are no words. Thank GOD you didn't have any kids with that man - you would be tied to him for life. I didn't have any kids with my ex either and I am so thankful. wow...your ex sounded just about like mine, i'm telling you! likewise, i am sooo THANKFUL i didn't get pregnant by him. IMO,his main intention was to get me tied to him for life and i knew it. he seems like he has to have something or someone around him all the time.he had dogs then had to let them go.so he got some fish.they died so he got a turtle...lol...i'm telling the truth! he let it go so now he has two big plants that look quite out of place in his apartment. i thought it was sweet at first but when he kept getting these different pets and plants and always trying to find out where i was and calling and texting at insane rates and then he has this constant stoic expression,i started thinking to myself..."this guy may be on meds or have some other issue that he's not telling me about." btw, his brother is a clinically dignosed paranoid Schizophrenic.
Angel1111 Posted October 21, 2009 Posted October 21, 2009 Yeah, they all pretty much play by the same rule book. Except my ex hated animals - or pretty much anything else that might take my attention away for more than .3 seconds. It was very deliberate on my part not to have kids with him - I knew it would be a mistake. I wanted another child but I didn't consider him an option.
Author muse08 Posted October 21, 2009 Author Posted October 21, 2009 i have to be honest though. throughout all this i don't think he would personally do anything to hurt me but i am now in a vigilant state b/c i have this feeling that he is really upset that he cant control me that he will get someone else to do something to me or my vehicle...i'm serious. a few months ago,he bought us food. we ate it.i ate one part he ate the other.mind you he got it on his way home from work partially to lure me over to his place i believe.so i ate,went home and within 2 hrs or so i begin throwing up like crazy.FOOD poisoning...don't mean to be graphic, but it was coming out both ways. this went on for about an hour...backnforth to the restroom. i told him about it the next day and he doesn't act surprised...he maintained his stoicism then eventally asked about it again with a little more "enthusiasm"/concern. i chose to not eat anything from him ever again.now when the kind of trust is broken what else is left? he grew up with some thugs and still knows some of them. he gave me this constant message when we first met like he was only trying to do good and had changed his life a few years ago from how he used to be. i'm glad i'm getting all this out (no pun intended) b/c i keep thinking of all the things that made me decide to let him go. i don't like feeling like this,but my intuition is telling me that if something happens to my home,vehicle or something else personal...it will be because of him.
JaggedRoad Posted October 21, 2009 Posted October 21, 2009 i have to be honest though. throughout all this i don't think he would personally do anything to hurt me but i am now in a vigilant state b/c i have this feeling that he is really upset that he cant control me that he will get someone else to do something to me or my vehicle...i'm serious. a few months ago,he bought us food. we ate it.i ate one part he ate the other.mind you he got it on his way home from work partially to lure me over to his place i believe.so i ate,went home and within 2 hrs or so i begin throwing up like crazy.FOOD poisoning...don't mean to be graphic, but it was coming out both ways. this went on for about an hour...backnforth to the restroom. i told him about it the next day and he doesn't act surprised...he maintained his stoicism then eventally asked about it again with a little more "enthusiasm"/concern. i chose to not eat anything from him ever again.now when the kind of trust is broken what else is left? he grew up with some thugs and still knows some of them. he gave me this constant message when we first met like he was only trying to do good and had changed his life a few years ago from how he used to be. i'm glad i'm getting all this out (no pun intended) b/c i keep thinking of all the things that made me decide to let him go. i don't like feeling like this,but my intuition is telling me that if something happens to my home,vehicle or something else personal...it will be because of him. That is really scary. Run for the hills!
Author muse08 Posted October 21, 2009 Author Posted October 21, 2009 Yeah, they all pretty much play by the same rule book. Except my ex hated animals - or pretty much anything else that might take my attention away for more than .3 seconds. It was very deliberate on my part not to have kids with him - I knew it would be a mistake. I wanted another child but I didn't consider him an option. good for you for not having kids w/him. lol@ .3 seconds...lol
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