Ruby Slippers Posted October 20, 2009 Posted October 20, 2009 After being single for a year, I have gone on a couple of (long, multi-stage) dates with this guy, and things recently got a little bit physical. Nothing crazy, but I was amazed at how my emotions shot up immediately. His did, too (unless he is totally lying just to try to get laid). It's also important to note that I haven't had sex in over a year now -- and just going off the teaser information, I am quite excited to take it further. But scared that then I will turn into a TOTAL girl. When I was honest about my reaction to the physical involvement, he said he wanted to be honest, too, and told me he thinks we have a lot in common, he likes me a lot, and he wants to see where this can go. He also said he wants to see me more often, told me all the time he's available this week, and asked when I'm free. I am super busy with work right now (I run my own biz, so it fluctuates), and he offered to bring me pizza, give me a back rub, or even help out with the work if he can -- anything I want, he said. If he is being sincere, it seems clear that he's pretty into me. I guess I'm not sure yet if I'm into him and if I consider him worth the investment of getting involved, and that's what I'm trying to figure out. There are a couple of yellow flags, including the fact that he's 38 and said he "hasn't really been a relationship person in the past" and "just falls into relationships". My last bf was a commitment-phobe, so those words are pretty scary to me. I suppose I could just go on a few more dates with him and see how I feel -- and we are going out this weekend -- but I just feel pretty freaked and anxious, and it sucks. Any wisdom, oh LoveShack sages?
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