justagirl09 Posted October 20, 2009 Posted October 20, 2009 I am dating this guy, and I get very jealous when his female friends post on his wall. One in pareticular, lately. She is a bit older than him, and posting things like text me I need to tell you something. Now why would you post that on someone's wall? Why not just text him? I don't beg him to call me, he just does.But this woman is really bothering me, its like she is trying to go after him! Well, I won't chase or beg, so if he does go for her, its his loss. She looks kinda skanky lol.
BookerT Posted October 20, 2009 Posted October 20, 2009 I post stuff like that on friend's walls all the time. It's free messaging and generally harmless. Also, trust me, you'll rather it was on his wall and open to see than hidden......
TheLoneSock Posted October 20, 2009 Posted October 20, 2009 Facebook and Myspace ruin relationships. And lives.
New Again Posted October 20, 2009 Posted October 20, 2009 Yeah, I think it's the "hidden" stuff you have to worry about....if it's in the open, probably not so much, although I can understand why it's annoying. My sister and I make fun of people who post things like "call me" (uhhh....why don't you just leave a voicemail?? Or call them yourself??). And like thelonesock pointed out, just keep in mind that facebook is whack.... Just as an example, before my bf and I decided to put our relationship status on fb (he wanted to, I didn't), he had all kinds of girls commenting on his stuff and posting on his wall. 99% of the things weren't flirting, but they were still posting, constantly. Literally, as soon as he was "In a relationship with New Again" the posting/commenting completely stopped. It was so obvious and bizarre that I couldn't help but notice. Ever since then, the only girls who post or comment on his page are ones that I know (i.e. his actual friends, not just acquaintances). Point is, I could've driven myself crazy with what ifs and what does that mean and who were those girls and what were their intentions and so on...but really, it doesn't mean anything, and all I needed to know was that my bf was with ME.
Author justagirl09 Posted October 20, 2009 Author Posted October 20, 2009 I post stuff like that on friend's walls all the time. It's free messaging and generally harmless. Also, trust me, you'll rather it was on his wall and open to see than hidden...... Well, yeah but I guess I wasn't sure it was normal for opposite sex, to be that friendly.
Author justagirl09 Posted October 20, 2009 Author Posted October 20, 2009 Yeah, I think it's the "hidden" stuff you have to worry about....if it's in the open, probably not so much, although I can understand why it's annoying. My sister and I make fun of people who post things like "call me" (uhhh....why don't you just leave a voicemail?? Or call them yourself??). And like thelonesock pointed out, just keep in mind that facebook is whack.... Just as an example, before my bf and I decided to put our relationship status on fb (he wanted to, I didn't), he had all kinds of girls commenting on his stuff and posting on his wall. 99% of the things weren't flirting, but they were still posting, constantly. Literally, as soon as he was "In a relationship with New Again" the posting/commenting completely stopped. It was so obvious and bizarre that I couldn't help but notice. Ever since then, the only girls who post or comment on his page are ones that I know (i.e. his actual friends, not just acquaintances). Point is, I could've driven myself crazy with what ifs and what does that mean and who were those girls and what were their intentions and so on...but really, it doesn't mean anything, and all I needed to know was that my bf was with ME. I understand what your saying. Its just so darn annoying, you know?
New Again Posted October 20, 2009 Posted October 20, 2009 I understand what your saying. Its just so darn annoying, you know? I totally know where you're coming from...at least I think I do. It sounds like you just want it to be obvious to everyone, and on facebook, that YOU are your bf's confidant, closest girl friend, priority, etc., and this girl is blowing up his wall and making it [seem] to all of his facebook friends like she's more important to him and in his life than she probably actually is. Correct?
Sith Apprentice Posted October 20, 2009 Posted October 20, 2009 I never trust a woman who has a SitOnMyFace page.
single ape Posted October 20, 2009 Posted October 20, 2009 man.. don't listen to them .. none of them know what they are talking about. People post on other peoples walls... on purpose.. all the time. It is the proverbial fire hydrant that they are pissing on. She is doing it on purpose.. and you should be bummed.. because she is challenging you and any other woman that like him. You're sensing it because it is true. And dudes are dumb.. and say **** like "if it was a big deal.. shed do it in private.. " like all these dudes are saying, but there is no confrontation with you in doing that. So on the wall.. the only smart thing said on here was "facebook ruins lives.." Sure, it'll get you laid, but it'll also get you unlaid.
Funky Posted October 20, 2009 Posted October 20, 2009 I never trust a woman who has a SitOnMyFace page. That comment just made my day!! Can I add it to my material hahaha
New Again Posted October 20, 2009 Posted October 20, 2009 man.. don't listen to them .. none of them know what they are talking about. People post on other peoples walls... on purpose.. all the time. It is the proverbial fire hydrant that they are pissing on. She is doing it on purpose.. and you should be bummed.. because she is challenging you and any other woman that like him. You're sensing it because it is true. And dudes are dumb.. and say **** like "if it was a big deal.. shed do it in private.. " like all these dudes are saying, but there is no confrontation with you in doing that. So on the wall.. the only smart thing said on here was "facebook ruins lives.." Sure, it'll get you laid, but it'll also get you unlaid. I agree that men and women posting on each other's walls is done by many people to mark their territory, so to speak. And that's a little bit what I was getting at in my last post. However, I don't think you can say conclusively that this is what's going on here without knowing the nature of the relationship and the history between the two. A "call me" kind of comment is probably some kind of territory marking. A "hey haven't spoken to you in awhile, hope you're well" is probably not. Making a neutral comment on a post or status is probably not territory marking. Commenting on a post or status with an inside joke, or something similar, is probably territory marking. But that said, just because this girl is being obnoxious doesn't necessarily mean anything on the bf's end.
NoneoftheAbove Posted October 20, 2009 Posted October 20, 2009 Facebook and Myspace ruin relationships. And lives. Very true.
trueblue72ny Posted October 20, 2009 Posted October 20, 2009 (edited) this is exactly why i dont have a face book account! i see more people getting upset over it. i have been seeing a new girl. she is on face book and is online with her friends talking to stalkers because they get a kick out of it. she has told me they will never be relationship people. i believe her & hope she never makes me second guess that. so why rile myself up looking at it. i guess you can say LS is another place were you can talk to people. and if my girl ever saw things i wrote on here i would be horrified. i am glad she doesnt know. not that i am doing anything bad. but its just another personal outlet for me. it doesnt change the way i feel about her at all. and it doesnt mean i am looking for someone else. because i am not. the internet is big enough she can have her space with her friends online. and i can have mine. Edited October 20, 2009 by trueblue72ny
single ape Posted October 20, 2009 Posted October 20, 2009 I agree that men and women posting on each other's walls is done by many people to mark their territory, so to speak. And that's a little bit what I was getting at in my last post. However, I don't think you can say conclusively that this is what's going on here without knowing the nature of the relationship and the history between the two. A "call me" kind of comment is probably some kind of territory marking. A "hey haven't spoken to you in awhile, hope you're well" is probably not. Making a neutral comment on a post or status is probably not territory marking. Commenting on a post or status with an inside joke, or something similar, is probably territory marking. But that said, just because this girl is being obnoxious doesn't necessarily mean anything on the bf's end. true.. i guess i was just responding to the overall "it's just facebook" doesn't mean anything ness of the responses.. when we all know firsthand that some people do some of their dirtiest work over facebook...so you can't toss a blanket statement on it meaning nothing
looking4 green grass Posted October 20, 2009 Posted October 20, 2009 Eh, get him to post a profile pic with you two in it. Then it really doesn't matter how many comments she leaves, the world knows he's yours (and so will she). I'm in the camp of she probably knows what she's doing and is doing it on purpose. Women....we can be so catty!
aerogurl87 Posted October 20, 2009 Posted October 20, 2009 Well I believe people post stuff on people of the opposite sex's walls for one of three reasons. 1) They are bored and want something to do, 2) they are trying to flirt with the person, or 3) they just want to say hi. For your boyfriend it could be a combination of all three. I know when I get bored I comment on people's status' sometimes randomly. Then sometimes I leave a wall post just to say hi, especially if I haven't spoken to that person in awhile. Then you have people like this one friend I had. While my ex and I were together we put it up on facebook that we were in a relationship, had a profile pic of us together, the whole gambit. Well my friend who I had a sneaking suspicion had a crush on me, had the nerve to comment on one of my status messages with something along the lines of "give up your boyfriend and come be with me". Well my ex saw it and confronted him about it on my page after I told him it wasn't gonna happen. So like I said it could be a combination of the three.
Clep Posted October 20, 2009 Posted October 20, 2009 My bf and I are both on facebook, and are facebook friends. It causes no problems for us at all. I am not worried about comments from others and I don't believe he is either. If some chick wants to mark her turf on his profile in the virtual world I don't really care....he is mine in the real world. It is up to him to do what is right, and since he nor I can control what other's do, it really is a waste of my time. I trust him so I don't really care.
Author justagirl09 Posted October 22, 2009 Author Posted October 22, 2009 I understand. I dont know why, but i get so jealous every time he adds friends (even though i do too, but not as much) most of them, are friends from his hometown, but still how do i know they are not ex's. I know this one woman, who posted what i mentioned, well he deleted it. I dont know maybe it was too pathetic lol.
Author justagirl09 Posted October 22, 2009 Author Posted October 22, 2009 Well I believe people post stuff on people of the opposite sex's walls for one of three reasons. 1) They are bored and want something to do, 2) they are trying to flirt with the person, or 3) they just want to say hi. For your boyfriend it could be a combination of all three. I know when I get bored I comment on people's status' sometimes randomly. Then sometimes I leave a wall post just to say hi, especially if I haven't spoken to that person in awhile. Then you have people like this one friend I had. While my ex and I were together we put it up on facebook that we were in a relationship, had a profile pic of us together, the whole gambit. Well my friend who I had a sneaking suspicion had a crush on me, had the nerve to comment on one of my status messages with something along the lines of "give up your boyfriend and come be with me". Well my ex saw it and confronted him about it on my page after I told him it wasn't gonna happen. So like I said it could be a combination of the three. I do have the supiscion she has a crush on him! well, judging from what she looks like (not classy) i dont think he likes her LIKE THAT. But still, she is like 10 years older so she probably figured she would try. He ended up deleted both her pathetic comments but not mine lol.
Johnny M Posted October 23, 2009 Posted October 23, 2009 She looks kinda skanky lol. When a girl calls another girl "skanky", usually it's a code phrase for "she's hotter than me"
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