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I had a momentary lapse of sanity and considered taking back my serial cheater ex, who professed that he had changed, was willing to do whatever it took (passwords, texts etc) to regain my trust. However, he was still a liar and still chasing strange. This is what helped me realize the signs of the lying cheat, for when you don't want to believe them.

 

http://hot995.kaneshow.com/cc-common/podcast/single_podcast.html?podcast=kane_roses.xml&_show

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Jersey Shortie

Key word here is "serial" cheater. No, you should not take back someone that repeatidly cheated on you. Maybe they are different now, it's a slim but possible chance. But they disrepected you repeatidly.

 

Now if someone cheated once, and how they proceeded after that, that is something I think might be able to be salvaged. With ALOT of hard work.

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i agree with the other posters. it is hard enough to get over the trust issues associated with being cheated on once, let alone multiple times. i think you are trying to fool yourself into believing he has changed. but inside i think you already know the truth. a tiger cant change his stripes.

 

if you are cool with him banging other chicks, than go for it. if not, move on and find someone else you can have a trusting relationship with.

 

just my two cents.

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Even if he never cheats on you again, you will still know that he cheated before. A one time mistake can be worked through, but several times makes it more deliberate and less of a mistake, which makes it hurt more and take longer to get over. If you were to get back together with this guy, you would always be paranoid that he would be cheating on you, and that would destroy any chance of the two of you creating trust and a strong, close relationship.

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I don't think people read my post. I had already decided not to take him back, and realized that people like that don't change no matter what lies they offer to the contrary.

 

The link was for people to listen to cheaters getting caught in the act. It helps the person being cheated on to recognize the myriad lying techniques a cheater uses. Most of the time it consists of turning it around on the person being cheated on. Sometimes they profess that the other person showed them how much the cheated on person meant to them and that itw as a good thing. Occasionally, it's hysterical. But it's very educational.

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