Does anyone else here have a problem with their significant other's better looking ex

[Ophelia Rue]

...or is it just me?

 

I hate knowing who she is and where she works (somewhere I frequent), and the fact that she knows who I am and is incredibly sweet to me and calls me "hun" and "sweetie" whenever she sees me.

 

I really hate the fact that she's better looking than me.

 

Anyone else here suffering with the same thing?

[harmfulsweetz]

Not really. I used to be a bit like that but it was all to do with me, and not them. It's not like you can change how they look etc. They are exes for a reason, remember that.

[serialgf]

yes i know just how you feel.... in my case she is tall, thin, blonde.... all things i am not, and really pretty and flirty. the first few times we met she tried to be friendly to me and i pretty much ignored her and was actually pretty rude.... my bf was not very pleased with my behavior, though he was understanding...

 

however, the last few times i've seen her, because she is in somewhat the same social circles, i've been really nice to her in an attempt to act like a mature adult, and you know what? it definitely works out better because: a)i feel better about myself and more confident; b) my bf is happier with me and there's not tension between us; and c) she actually backed of from being so in our faces when we go out

 

my advice to you is to find the strength within yourself to be nice to this girl, not in an overt way, but in a confident way... trust me, it works wonders

 

also, one night, when we were drunk, she told me how nice i looked. i rolled my eyes and said, "yeah right dude, you're so pretty" and she said, "but you're young, i wish i were young like you"... haha see we all have something others want (she's about 6 years older than me and has a kid who's dad is out of the picture...)

 

good luck!! if i could get over this, you can too!

[Lying eyes]

It's interesting how differently girls think about this subject. I think the typical man would wonder about primarily two things. 1. Could I beat him up? 2. Is he a better lover?

[looking4 green grass]

I've run into that before. I make mental lists of all the great qualities I have to offer that the other girl doesn't. It helps me to take the focus off of how pretty she is, and helps me to realize it's the total package that counts.