victim_of_love Posted October 19, 2009 Posted October 19, 2009 Ok, this question ties into a few threads I made a while back. Below are just the important parts to help readers understand my situation. My ex-gf and I got together in April 2009 and our relationship had been going strong for sometime now. We decided to keep it a secret from her parents though, because she is on bad terms with them at the time. Regardless, everything was going good. We were very open with each other, we laughed alot, we made out and came real close to having sex on numerous occassions. Of course, she wanted to wait til we at least reached 2 months in our relationship before we could do anything. By June 2009, things started to come up. Her car broke down and she could not come see me as much. Then shortly afterwards, she came down with a horrible sickness and had to go to the ER. They slapped a huge bill on her and she has been acting different ever since. After not seeing her for an entire month, sometime at the end of June I called her to see if she had gotten the car fix to come see me. Then she told me something that led to me breaking up with her. She said, and I quote, "I am not focusing on thing or anyone else right now but my problems and my issues. My life is in a pickle at the moment and I want to clear things up with me b4 I worry about anyone else." After hearing that, I had to ask her what about us? I can't come see you because you're parents don't know about me, so if they saw me I'll probably go to jail. On top of that, she was not going to tell them about me anytime soon. So now I'm like how I am suppose to see you? Then she was like, "You can't. I can't come see you right now. I'm comfortable in this relationship right now where I can go a long time without seeing you." Now she is 21 years old, so I'm sure thats easy for her. But Im only 18 and I've pretty much been trapped inside my house all my life studying and doing chores. I don't plan on waiting for someone for what may seem like months to get her life together and find a way to come see me, when I could be chasing after many other girls as well. I feel as though If I'm not a priority right now as a bf, then I don't need to be one. Just sitting and waiting for months for you to come see me will just make me madder, even if I am working. We don't live that far away from each other. We are only 5-7 minutes away driving, and yet you still can't come see me? So yeah, I broke up with her. Now below is another thread which talked about a fight my ex and I had and how it turned out. I felt like my ex girlfriend and I broke up on bad terms. Miscommuncation between the both of us. She wouldn't come see me anymore and I thought she was too focused on other stuff to worry about me, so I broke up with her. That caused a bit of tension between us. Now weeks later, we started talking again and everything seemed well. The next day I tried asking her out again, and it turned out REAL ugly. She started telling me stuff and I felt her pushing herself away from me, so I ended up getting desperate. I actually asked her if we could go back to the way we were before our relationship, which was when we were messing around sexually with each other. LOTS of messing around. She did not take that very well. In fact she took it as a VERY crucial insult and now won't even talk to me anymore. She has told me that she will never be nice to me ever again and then she ended it with a hard "F*** you". This was over text messaging, btw. I tried calling her to apologize many times but she ignored some and the ones she answered she just told me "I said NO!" and then hung up in my face. I later sent her a facebook message to apologize, and even though she told me she forgave me, she still is being a real bitch to me. So, as expected, I just stopped making contact with her. I don't like bitches and, in my mind, I never really did anything to her to deserve to be bitched at all the time. If I'm wrong, let me know. But I just wanted to be close to her and I tried to explain that to her, yet she still wants to act very bitchy to me. Anyways, here is the situation. My friends, who happens to also be friends with my ex, have been pressuring me to try one last time and reconcile. They truly believe its only miscommunication and its wrong of me to keep ignoring my ex. Now after reading what was above, are they right? Should I reconcile and how? I apologize for all the writing but I just wanted you guys to get the whole situation before answering.
Author victim_of_love Posted October 20, 2009 Author Posted October 20, 2009 Apologizes for the double post, but I bumped this cause I want people to see it and respond.
Author victim_of_love Posted October 21, 2009 Author Posted October 21, 2009 Ok I know people are reading this topic, but no one has bothered to respond. Listen, if I come across like a pestering bug, I apologize, but I am like seriously in a loop here. If it is too much to read, let me know and I'll do my best to shorten it. I just need some advice on this situation.
Soul Bear Posted October 21, 2009 Posted October 21, 2009 No, you should not reconcile. Just keep moving on. You are still young! Enjoy it!
Soul Bear Posted October 21, 2009 Posted October 21, 2009 Anyways, here is the situation. My friends, who happens to also be friends with my ex, have been pressuring me to try one last time and reconcile. They truly believe its only miscommunication and its wrong of me to keep ignoring my ex. Now after reading what was above, are they right? Should I reconcile and how? ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^ This is all your post needed Don't listen to your friends. You need to follow what YOU think is best to do...what is best for you. Personally tho, as advice, I would advise you to just keep moving on and leave her as your past.
Author victim_of_love Posted October 23, 2009 Author Posted October 23, 2009 Yeah I hear what you are saying. I guess whats done is done.
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