Funky Posted October 19, 2009 Posted October 19, 2009 Looking for input on this and opinions. Ok, so I met this girl in the elevator at my work and felt like there was a mutual attraction. We started talking by email and I asked her if she would like to go for a smoke (yeah I know smoking is bad mmmkk). We started going for a smoke everyday a few times a day chatting and getting to know each other. We had met on the monday and we went out for supper on thursday. It was awesome, I was happy to see her out of work and she said the same thing. Had supper, went outside and kissed, back in and talked tons then I walked her to her car, we kissed a bit more and that was that. She left for vegas the next day saying that she was going to miss me and all that jazz. Texting me from vegas and ended her msgs with xoxox. When I saw her on tuesday at work it was really different, I could feel something was a miss but I let it slide. On Wednesday I was like ok and I asked her. She said that working in the same building was out of her comfort zone and that she felt like it was better to not see each other anymore. She was suppose to come over for a nice supper on that Friday and said that she would skip on that for now. She also added we that she wouldn't mind hanging out but nothing more and let's take it easy for a little while. Basicly I liked this girl, I thought she was cool and that we had chemistry from the first time we met. Now what I ask myself is, should I just forget about it? obviously I haven't been contacting her and don't intend on doing so and I'm not going to just wait around either. Anyways does it make sense that she is gaga one week and then the next she can't do it because we work in the same building. And is she giving me a sign that maybe later on?
phineas Posted October 19, 2009 Posted October 19, 2009 She's probably dateing someone else & you came in 2nd place. It happens. I'd just leave her be. The whole same building sounds fishy. Is it the same company also?
sdoyle537 Posted October 19, 2009 Posted October 19, 2009 If it really clicks with someone, then working in the same building doesn't matter. It doesn't even cross your mind. I would have to say something else is us. Maybe shes afraid of her feelings for you. Whatever it is, there is obviously a lot of insecurities there.
New Again Posted October 19, 2009 Posted October 19, 2009 If you work for the same company in the same building, yes, I think it's that bad. But, that's based not on my experience, but my bf's with his ex-gf. That said, I don't think that's the real reason this girl is blowing you off. Point is, though, that she isn't interested and doesn't want to see you, so the reason doesn't really matter.
zilverenvlinder Posted October 19, 2009 Posted October 19, 2009 My bf and I work in the same building. In fact, we work in the same ROOM in the same building. (a Very large room, but still.) Even though it's kind of weird working together, if you really like someone it's not even a FACTOR. Sounds like she a) got back together with an ex, b) met someone else, or c) got married in Vegas.. just kidding about the last one. Kind of.
Author Funky Posted October 20, 2009 Author Posted October 20, 2009 I think what bothers me the most in all this is that I don't seem to be getting honesty. I'm someone that's very honest no matter how it affects the other person so I usually expect the same thing in return but we all know that nowadays hardly anyone is honest anymore. I mean who cares if you hurt my feelings really? I've been threw way to much in my life to have something as minor as this affect me!! That's my rant for the day haha
New Again Posted October 20, 2009 Posted October 20, 2009 I think what bothers me the most in all this is that I don't seem to be getting honesty. I'm someone that's very honest no matter how it affects the other person so I usually expect the same thing in return but we all know that nowadays hardly anyone is honest anymore. I mean who cares if you hurt my feelings really? I've been threw way to much in my life to have something as minor as this affect me!! That's my rant for the day haha I think she cares because you two work in the same building, and she doesn't want to make you, or herself uncomfortable... Working in the same building is mostly a problem when you break up or become uninterested, not so much when you actually like each other. That's why it's a bad idea. Because there's a 99% chance the relationship is going to fail/end (assuming your goal is to marry one person).
trueblue72ny Posted October 20, 2009 Posted October 20, 2009 (edited) I think what bothers me the most in all this is that I don't seem to be getting honesty. another reason to not even bother with her. if she wants to get in contact with you to go for a break, than cool. go for it, be nice, but stay aloof. i wouldnt bother going out of my way to initiate ANYTHING, or ask her to hang outside, until she comes clean with you, or starts making you feel like she is being honest with you. your intuition is telling you something. listen to it. Edited October 20, 2009 by trueblue72ny
Author Funky Posted October 20, 2009 Author Posted October 20, 2009 that's what I've been doing, haven't bothered contacting her since well who cares really, it's not like I have trouble mtg ppl anyway. like yesterday we happened to cross paths and I just said; hey, how's it going! and kept on walking while maintaining interest on what I was reading on my phone hehe
Odyssey Posted October 20, 2009 Posted October 20, 2009 It's awesome if it all works out, i know a married couple who work together and they say it's perfect. But like New Again stated, you got to consider the downside too. A breakup will likely affect everyone else in the office as well. If you two don't encounter each other often work, then it might be better. Trust me. As if a breakup isn't pain enough, my ex-gf and i sat opposite each other at work, let me tell you - it was excruciating torture! So weight up the risks in future. I wished i did. In terms of this girl, if she says it's not a good idea or she's uncomfortable? Listen to her. Whether that is the reason or not, it doesn't really matter. She's not interested right now. I hope you'll find someone else.
Author Funky Posted October 20, 2009 Author Posted October 20, 2009 I agree that the break up part can be horrible, I know cuz I've lived it the past when my ex started working in my building haha... That's what I did, I listened, shared my opinion and that was that. It was all to fairytellish to be true I guess haha... And thx, wasn't even interested in meeting anyone since I lived a breakup not to long ago and well when I met her that changed, oh what a world lol
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