JadedHeart Posted October 19, 2009 Posted October 19, 2009 So I saw my ex and her new boyfriend the other day, at first I was initially very saddened by the ordeal. When I drove home however I felt it was actually a good thing. It's been about 7 months and during that time I have made some progress on getting over her. It's now a whole lot easier to let go of false hope because now I know she's too busy living her life, and now it's time for me to do the same. So I suppose what I'm trying to say is for those of you who are still down about your ex, and you happen to run into them being happy with their new SO, it's time for us to do the same!
ATR Posted October 19, 2009 Posted October 19, 2009 Well said, on to bigger and better things we are.
NopeNah Posted October 19, 2009 Posted October 19, 2009 I know what you're saying but, It's time to do that as soon as they choose to leave. It doesn't take me seeing her with someone to know what I have to do for me and my happiness. I know that seeing that does cancel out that "great" thing of false hope though. So, it can be the final push into acceptance/freedom. I haven't had to deal with seeing her with anyone else in a while. Not sure how it'll make me feel. She's just a numb part of the past to me anymore.. The person I once loved is DEAD as far as i'm concerned!
Soul Bear Posted October 19, 2009 Posted October 19, 2009 Well said, on to bigger and better things we are. BOO YA! Money shot...
EricaH329 Posted October 19, 2009 Posted October 19, 2009 I know i've mentioned this in another thread, but personally after a break up, I try to imagine that they are already with another person. Not the gritty details or anything like that, but to put myself in the mind frame that they are happy with someone else. In the back of my mind, I know that all i'm doing is lying to myself, but I continue on living my life with that idea. It might sound crazy, but it actually works! Living with the idea that the other person is happy, makes it that much easier to focus on myself and make myself happy, just as it should be. Anyway, i'm glad you have come to the realization that you deserve happiness as well! It doesn't come over night, but if you keep at it you'll find it!
Soul Bear Posted October 19, 2009 Posted October 19, 2009 try to imagine that they are already with another person. Not the gritty details or anything like that, but put yourself in the mind frame that they are happy with someone else. Living with the idea that the other person is happy, makes it that much easier to focus on yourself and make yourself happy, just as it should be. Anyway, i'm glad you have come to the realization that you deserve happiness as well! It doesn't come over night, but if you keep at it you'll find it! Sorry for editing your post a bit, it's just really really good advice:cool:
EricaH329 Posted October 20, 2009 Posted October 20, 2009 Sorry for editing your post a bit, it's just really really good advice:cool: Go for it!! My thoughts are all over the place, if you can make it seem as though it makes sense then more power to you!! Thank you btw
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