JL911 Posted October 19, 2009 Posted October 19, 2009 Ok quick refresh...I meet girl...Girl seems great...Girl is 25 and never has had a relationship more than 3 months and always seems to be the dumper.....JL is determined to be different...lol its like I have something to prove about myself...We have been on 7 or so dates now in the past 3 weeks.... Ok heres the deal. More recent developments and we have passed the point of no return as well (hint hint, nudge nudge ) and its good! We spent almost the entire weekend together and I was at her place till almost 3am on saturday and she at my place till almost 3am sunday and we like never want to leave. We talk a lot, kiss, now sex is involved and we really seem to be connecting. She makes me pretty happy for the most part and I cant help but feel I've got to this girl. I picked her up saturday and met her parents for the first time...Last night she told me I am the 1st guy shes ever brought home to meet her parents...Odd, but I couldnt help but feel indifferent about it cause every girl I have dated has gone out of their way to allow me to meet mom and dad...I cant help but think that she feels differently about me than the others she has dated in the past since she brought me there to meet mom and dad... She told me last night that she really likes me, thinks about me a lot throughout the day, and has so much fun when we are together (feeling is mutial)...We also have had talks about her running away from guys and how shes never been in love...She claims she has yet to care enough about someone to progress past 3 months and has come across a lot of jerks and doormats. In the past I seem to have been kinda suckered into relationships after seeing a girl and having things get sexual and having them wanting more. Over time I did like them, but the initial connection was always skeptical on my end. For whatever reason I guess I just went along with it. With this one its real weird, for once I want it, and it confuses the hell outa me. She doesnt expect or demand a lot from me and it is very different than what I am used to when I am seeing someone. We dont talk at all on the phone just texts, or maybe an occasional 5min convo, but when we are together we talk a lot. She doesnt have a need for me 24/7, but in reality she cant get enough of me. Im used to the needy girls who want to be around me all the time and the girls who try to set a daily routine of when is the best time to call and they want to talk for an hour about their day, and expect my undivided attention while on the phone...This change of pace is kinda nice but very confusing since its so different. She really has kinda broke the mold for me and I keep trying to tell myself that this may not last and just enjoy it while you can. But I cant help but feel that Im am going a bit head over heals for a chick with a commitment phobia...lol... I am a very confident guy. I've never let a relationship define me as a person. Im pretty good at speaking my mind even if it is not what the other person wants to hear, and doing it in a civil way that gets my point across. I'm not a doormat, but I am a very loyal, caring, and respectful person. I guess I view myself as a very strong male with a lot of good qualities about him...I'm the kinda guy you marry, I guess...lol
Lucky_One Posted October 19, 2009 Posted October 19, 2009 I didn't date anyone over 3 months before I met my first husband. And now post-divorce, I didn't date anyone over 3 months before I met my present SO. It's not commitment-phobia in my case - it's a realization that this person isn't a good long-term partner for me, and ending it before it gets messier and more painful.
Author JL911 Posted October 19, 2009 Author Posted October 19, 2009 I began talking to her about 2 months or so ago and finally we kinda agreed that we were into one another and wanted to explore the possibilities...We have now been seeing each other for about 3 weeks now... You could be right...they might have not lasted simply because she couldnt see it going any further than what it was at the time...I kind of think with me she is viewing me as a little more than just a fling or another guy who wont last since the whole introducing me to the parents and such... Im not really viewing this as like the girl I am going to marry. Just I know that she is the type of person who I could develop very strong feelings for and Im trying to stay on gaurd a little bit...
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