Author Lishy Posted October 20, 2009 Author Posted October 20, 2009 Oh thats cool! I will not regret anything and that is all that matters to me! So he didnt call ... His loss! lol
Johnny M Posted October 20, 2009 Posted October 20, 2009 What happned is this: he planned to have sex with you then disappear. Since he didn't get sex, he just went straight to the disappearing part. Sorry. Nah...if he was a player and only wanted sex, he would have called her the following day and likely got what he wanted (it's pretty obvious that the OP wants him, which I'm sure he's aware of).
Author Lishy Posted October 20, 2009 Author Posted October 20, 2009 Maybe he just wanted a place to crash? Maybe he has a girlfriend? maybe he was out for one thing? we will soon find out cos if I dont hear by tomorrow its end game anyway and he didnt get any sex!! I dont regret anything so its all good, as yes I really did like him and that is not like me! He did say he wanted to see me again and again and again and it was the second time I had seen him. He really did not put on the grope and I was not fending him off all night, he took no as no quite easily but we had been drinking so who knows!
ForRealLoveMe Posted October 21, 2009 Posted October 21, 2009 Maybe he just wanted a place to crash? Maybe he has a girlfriend? maybe he was out for one thing? we will soon find out cos if I dont hear by tomorrow its end game anyway and he didnt get any sex!! I dont regret anything so its all good, as yes I really did like him and that is not like me! He did say he wanted to see me again and again and again and it was the second time I had seen him. He really did not put on the grope and I was not fending him off all night, he took no as no quite easily but we had been drinking so who knows! He didn't take no as no if he tried more then once (even after you saying no sex), but you did invite him over on the second date. I doubt he just needed a place to crash. If someone wants something enough and has no intention on respecting a person, they will say what is wanted to be heard over and over again. I'd chalk it up to not interested. But that is just me.
Author Lishy Posted October 21, 2009 Author Posted October 21, 2009 YeahI am taking it as not interested now too ... when a guy is interested he does not play games! Oh well I had a fun night so its all good!!
UbiJW Posted October 21, 2009 Posted October 21, 2009 Just call him. My current girlfriiend asked me to hang out a buch of times before we started dating. I found it attractive and in fact at first I may have only been interests in the physical thing but we hung out more and more and I actually grew to like her. I'm sorry but two dates is not enough for this guy to be crazy about YOU he was trying to get laid and that's fine doesn't mean he's a pig. Get some backbone call the guy and hang out again and keep the pants on like don't go back to your place again. If you hang out again you'll figure out what he's really going for and if he doesn't answer then whatever move on to someone who isn't such a wimp. If I spent a crazy night that was awesome and romantic and i really like a girl and mght get laid then wow I am going to call you and want to hang out to experience more of that. But guys who are wimps and guys who are younger are taught by their friends and society to keep you wanting more and act like they have tons of options which apparently competitive chicks think is a turn on a la the bachelor. So you should call him, have CONFIDENCE your a cool chick you can call whoeer you want to hang out and have sex with who and when YOU choose. That's the kind of chick that is classy and hot. Those are the only ones I'm goin for.
TheLoneSock Posted October 21, 2009 Posted October 21, 2009 YeahI am taking it as not interested now too ... when a guy is interested he does not play games! Oh well I had a fun night so its all good!! I hate to say I told you so, but... ah whatever. You'll find better, that's for sure.
Author Lishy Posted October 27, 2009 Author Posted October 27, 2009 He rang by the way and said he had been ill all week and would love to see me again!
mushmush Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 Do note that even if a guy likes you he'll hold off on calling to build up anticipation (you jumping at the phone), and to avoid looking smitten/overly eager (ironic that the stupid rules and games that are pounded into our heads about the dating game interfere with romances, isn't it?). I'm jumping in here. I have a question to ask.. How happy and surprised where you when he finally phoned??? Guess everyone was waiting 2 days to call so now it's 6 days?? Watch Swingers with Vince Vaughn if you ever get the chance Lishy. There is a classic scene it this movie that will explain why most guys wait at least 2 days to call. Actually it's just an awsome movie to watch if you want to understand guys behavour when we meet girls. But I degress, best of luck Lishy
Author Lishy Posted October 28, 2009 Author Posted October 28, 2009 Yeah I have seen the film Mush, and was I excited to hear from him? Na, not really! I was relieved that my instincts were not off and that he did infact like me but I wont be arranging to meet up with him any time soon! I am not into games and he obviously is
Awesome Username Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 He rang by the way and said he had been ill all week and would love to see me again! I said it would be about a week until he rang again! ARRRRRGH I'm good!
Author Lishy Posted October 28, 2009 Author Posted October 28, 2009 Yeah but by waiting a week he has turned me off him! Oh well!
marlena Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 Yeah but by waiting a week he has turned me off him! Oh well! It would have turned me off as well, Lishy. BUT you can always keep him on stand-by if you should feel that way inclined. Two can play the game, right?
Author Lishy Posted October 28, 2009 Author Posted October 28, 2009 Yeah he could be stand by guy, but I have a few of those already and they are all guys who are not R material ... do I need another? Its a shame cos I did like this one!
marlena Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 Its a shame cos I did like this one! That changes things. He can't be a stand-by guy if you like him that much. Only the so-so guys make the stand -by list. Seriously, if you already have feelings for him imagine how much worse things can get if he is not R material or if he just wants a casual thing at this time in his life. Rethink this Lishy. It's potentially dangerous.
Author Lishy Posted October 28, 2009 Author Posted October 28, 2009 I was thinking just that Marlena! I do like him too much to put up with a game player I have no time for games like that!
Malenfant Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 ahh.. give the guy a break!! he's slated for being a player, then slated for not being confident enough. He acted like a normal young guy who only tried it on a couple of time and apparently he's being disrespectful! But if he didnt try it on at all, then that would have been seen as him not having any interest! Gosh, i'm so glad i'm a woman! imagine being a man and having to circumnavigate through the minefield that is a woman's mind! I mean all of this in the nicest way, its just funny how a guy can do so apparently little wrong, and yet because he didnt call back by the exact day you wanted, now he's yesterdays news. Poor chap!
Ms. Joolie Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 Lishy, great job! I so admire your attitude on the whole thing. You know what you wanted. You wanted a guy to be certain he wanted to go out with you and not drop the ball. A week went by, and he dropped the ball. You know you are not up to that kind of slack. Off with his head. haha Good for you in not being desperate. Doesn't sound like you need to be at all. I believe you totally acted appropriately. Women, no more tying up feelings in knots while waiting for the guy! Guys, take the hint! LOL. I love this. It so hits home.
dreamergrl Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 Yeah I have seen the film Mush, and was I excited to hear from him? Na, not really! I was relieved that my instincts were not off and that he did infact like me but I wont be arranging to meet up with him any time soon! I am not into games and he obviously is Lishy... this isn't meant to be mean.. but you were kind of playing the game too. And then.. Yeah he could be stand by guy, but I have a few of those already and they are all guys who are not R material ... do I need another? With this attitude your no different. Lets say the guy really was ill, are you going to really going to hold it against him for not calling during the time from of the 'set' rules. This is why I hate the rules. I don't know about else where, but people are getting really sick around here left and right. He could be telling the truth. Or he may not be. Still... I don't think calling with in a week is that bad.
Ms. Joolie Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 Gosh, i'm so glad i'm a woman! imagine being a man and having to circumnavigate through the minefield that is a woman's mind! Blah. No, guys should NOT even try to "circumnavigate through the minefield" of a woman's mind. They shouldn't try to guess what we want. No one should ever play the guessing game. That's how the games start. If the guy didn't know how to act when he is interested in a woman, then that is his fault. He's got some learning to do.
Author Lishy Posted October 28, 2009 Author Posted October 28, 2009 Lishy... this isn't meant to be mean.. but you were kind of playing the game too. And then.. With this attitude your no different. Lets say the guy really was ill, are you going to really going to hold it against him for not calling during the time from of the 'set' rules. This is why I hate the rules. I don't know about else where, but people are getting really sick around here left and right. He could be telling the truth. Or he may not be. Still... I don't think calling with in a week is that bad. No, I am not playing a game at all .... I dont call men first and never will. Any guy I have ever had a relationship with has made it clear he is interested with no games attached. I have dealt with guys who are not that interested and all I get is hurt. That is why I have my own set of rules now. Yes he could have been ill but what kind of illness stops you getting in contact with someone you are interested in? As far as he told me he had a cold, he never mentioned that his fingers froze off or that he was in hospital! I am not up for any more heartbreak right now so I am going to try my hardest to stay away from any game players for now! Self preservation!
tinktronik Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 No, I am not playing a game at all .... I dont call men first and never will. Any guy I have ever had a relationship with has made it clear he is interested with no games attached. I have dealt with guys who are not that interested and all I get is hurt. That is why I have my own set of rules now. Yes he could have been ill but what kind of illness stops you getting in contact with someone you are interested in? As far as he told me he had a cold, he never mentioned that his fingers froze off or that he was in hospital! I am not up for any more heartbreak right now so I am going to try my hardest to stay away from any game players for now! Self preservation! I would say you are going about it the right way Lishy. You know where you stand and are sticking to it. Good job.
Malenfant Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 Blah. No, guys should NOT even try to "circumnavigate through the minefield" of a woman's mind. They shouldn't try to guess what we want. No one should ever play the guessing game. That's how the games start. If the guy didn't know how to act when he is interested in a woman, then that is his fault. He's got some learning to do. but thats my point! how is a man supposed to know how to act when women are generally so difficult to fathom. i'm a woman and even I can see why men have such a hard time. I wasnt making a 100% serious point about this, but I dont understand how anyone can expect men to know what to do when (judging by many posts on this site) women also do not know! I wasnt attacking the OP for her actions, I was just making a humourous observation about how women are, and considering I am one, I think i'm entitled!
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