Art_Critic Posted October 19, 2009 Posted October 19, 2009 10-1 he only agreed to stay the night was cuz he was thinking he was gonna get some morning sex Lishy... if he likes you he will call you... He may be waiting till the middle of the week to ask you out again... I might do that in that situation...
Author Lishy Posted October 19, 2009 Author Posted October 19, 2009 Art I made sure he was very clear on the fact that he was not getting any sex! He tried a couple of times but then didnt again, he was really respectful and I am not shocked he tried it on. So Art if you was in that situation as the man what would be going through your mind now?
Die Hard Posted October 19, 2009 Posted October 19, 2009 Is it just me, or is everyone really pissy at LS today..?
carhill Posted October 19, 2009 Posted October 19, 2009 So Art if you was in that situation as the man what would be going through your mind now? The explanation flying for my wife or girlfriend would probably be top priority
Author Lishy Posted October 19, 2009 Author Posted October 19, 2009 Is it just me, or is everyone really pissy at LS today..? It is not just today hon, every day is pissy day at LS ... some people just need to put others down to make themselves feel better. I half it, quarter it and then forget it! lol
Author Lishy Posted October 19, 2009 Author Posted October 19, 2009 The explanation flying for my wife or girlfriend would probably be top priority you think he is married? You have confused me Mr C! <---- confused face!
carhill Posted October 19, 2009 Posted October 19, 2009 BTDT, just being honest about it. Something about this isn't adding up.
Author Lishy Posted October 19, 2009 Author Posted October 19, 2009 BTDT, just being honest about it. Something about this isn't adding up. what is BTDT???? What is not adding up?
Art_Critic Posted October 19, 2009 Posted October 19, 2009 Is it just me, or is everyone really pissy at LS today..? No.. there seem to be some mean people on here as of late.. Art I made sure he was very clear on the fact that he was not getting any sex! He tried a couple of times but then didnt again, he was really respectful and I am not shocked he tried it on. So Art if you was in that situation as the man what would be going through your mind now? That's cool.. I would've tried too !!! Seriously Lishy.. I would be waiting till the middle of the week and calling you.. For a guy closing the deal is all part of the game and the game is still on... and I only use the word game as in dating.. nothing negative meant by that word I half it, quarter it and then forget it! lol I have some many people on ignore as of late...
Author Lishy Posted October 19, 2009 Author Posted October 19, 2009 So Art you think if he does call it will just be to have a shag and thats it? If so what makes you think that? I have decided that if I do not hear from him by Thursday he will not be getting an answer or reply and I will take him off my Facebook I am sooo not into games anymore! If he is interested I guess I would have known by now anyway.
TheLoneSock Posted October 19, 2009 Posted October 19, 2009 Art I made sure he was very clear on the fact that he was not getting any sex! He tried a couple of times but then didnt again, he was really respectful and I am not shocked he tried it on. So Art if you was in that situation as the man what would be going through your mind now? If he tried more than once after the fact you told him no sex, then he was not being respectful. That statement contradicts it'self, sorry. Do note that even if a guy likes you he'll hold off on calling to build up anticipation (you jumping at the phone), and to avoid looking smitten/overly eager (ironic that the stupid rules and games that are pounded into our heads about the dating game interfere with romances, isn't it?). If he doesn't call, it's because he either wasn't really that into you and just wanted sex for the night, or he wants to avoid further sexual frustration (if he thinks you don't put out). Knowing only what I know from the original post, I'm going to make a prediction he was just looking for a good lay. I do hope I'm wrong though, and you get what you want.
carhill Posted October 19, 2009 Posted October 19, 2009 what is BTDT???? What is not adding up? BTDT = Been there done that, meaning the explanations I provided during my EA Something not adding up means, as a man, when I have a perfect evening with a woman, with or without sex, I like to repeat that, and often. There has to be a compelling reason for me not to seek that repetition, like death or a spouse, you know
Johnny M Posted October 19, 2009 Posted October 19, 2009 and that above reply helps me how? Is it your aim to just have a go at me because I remind you of all the girls who have rejected you? It is not my fault you are bitter JM so scuttle off somewhere else with your whiney, self absorbed comments .... ta! No, my aim is make you realize that your thinking is illogical and stupid. Let me make one final attempt at explaining the situation to you. The guy initiated contact with you, which led to your first. Now he's probably thinking that it's your turn to call him. Just like, you he's probably waiting by the phone, wondering if you are still interested. Yet neither of you would pick up the phone and make that call because of the fear of rejection. The result is that you both lose. Your problem is that your head is filled with stupid, outdated notions (i.e. "you should never call the guy first unless you've been dating for a month" or something along those lines) that are holding you back. I don't if you picked up these bit folk wisdom from your mother or maybe you've read some stupid book like "The Rules"...but the fact is, calling up someone you like does not amount to chasing, nor is it desperate behavior. Now if the guy wasn't returning your phone calls and you kept calling, that would be a different story. So now you've got a choice to make. You could do nothing, never speak to the guy that you are obviously crazy about again, and then wonder for months what the hell went wrong. Or you could give him a call and ask him out. Even if he says no and doesn't return your call, at least you would know that you haven't missed out on a great opportunity. Now you tell me: what would an intelligent, rational and confident person do in this situation??
Author Lishy Posted October 19, 2009 Author Posted October 19, 2009 Thank you Lone, you made some good points! I will think about that! C ... Even though this stupid 3 day rule exists I agree with you, when you like someone you contact them. To be honest I wanted to text him that night but stopped myself ... Could he be doing the same? Who knows! It is such a waiting game but he has until Thursday then its game over!
Author Lishy Posted October 19, 2009 Author Posted October 19, 2009 JM I cant do it! My pride will not let me ... I believe it is down to a man to persue and if he feels it is down to a woman then we are not compatible anyway so we both win lol Seriously I am not going to contact him so you are really wasting your time trying to convonce me even if your intentions are good
Art_Critic Posted October 19, 2009 Posted October 19, 2009 Or you could give him a call and ask him out. Yeah.. she could do that.. and it might work and they go out.. The problem with that in this scenario is that it could lead him to believe that he is getting lucky on the next date.. She would have to ask him out for dinner and that is it unless of course she wants to finish what they started.
Author Lishy Posted October 19, 2009 Author Posted October 19, 2009 Noooo Art I dont want another fk buddy thing ever in my life and that is why I am sitting back doing nothing I want a man who goes for what he wants and is confident enough to risk rejection, if he is not built that way then he is not built for a Lishy Lashing hahaha
Johnny M Posted October 19, 2009 Posted October 19, 2009 JM I cant do it! My pride will not let me ... I believe it is down to a man to persue and if he feels it is down to a woman then we are not compatible anyway so we both win lol Seriously I am not going to contact him so you are really wasting your time trying to convonce me even if your intentions are good Well, it's your life. I'm not trying to convince you to do anything. I guess I just got a little annoyed because I used to be the same kind of person as you...confusing my insecurities with pride and passing up good opportunities out of fear to appear "desperate". Thankfully, I've grown out of that mindset....maybe one day you will too.
Author Lishy Posted October 19, 2009 Author Posted October 19, 2009 maybe one day I will grow out of it lol
Jilly Bean Posted October 20, 2009 Posted October 20, 2009 Lish - I'm shaking my Magic 8 Ball, and it says... (wait for it) "IT IS DECIDEDLY SO" The guy will call, hon. I'm quite certain of it! And I agree with you on NOT contacting him first. I would do the same thing. And it works. lol Good for you, btw. Nice to see you excited about a guy, rather than trashing your crap ass ex. lol
Trialbyfire Posted October 20, 2009 Posted October 20, 2009 Stick to your guns and let him cum to you Lishy. If he doesn't, he was looking for an ONS. If he does, game on!
marlena Posted October 20, 2009 Posted October 20, 2009 (edited) Stick to your guns and let him cum to you Lishy. If he doesn't, he was looking for an ONS. If he does, game on! I00% in agreement! Stick to your guns. A real man, a mature and confident one, the kind you want and deserve, will not play silly,childish games. If he's interested, he will call and SOON, too. Bear in mind that this guy is young so he may well be into playing games simply due to his youth. Anyway, I am keeping my fingers crossed for you, Lishy. Hope you get that call today. Edited October 20, 2009 by marlena
ForRealLoveMe Posted October 20, 2009 Posted October 20, 2009 I don't believe that he was being respectful, has he tried several times to have sex. When a guy gets invited over for the night, chances are he thinks more will happen. He obviously felt this way to continue to try. I don't think OP should call, not because it's the guy's job, but because he's not interested.
ADF Posted October 20, 2009 Posted October 20, 2009 What happned is this: he planned to have sex with you then disappear. Since he didn't get sex, he just went straight to the disappearing part. Sorry.
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