Lovingnature Posted October 19, 2009 Posted October 19, 2009 (edited) Hey Everyone I am in a situation where I am hurt and confused as to why my heart is broken.I basically got dumped by my long distance Girlfriend of 2 years and now I seem to have lost a part of me.She ended up falling in love with someone else while we were still talking and now the guy she fell for hurts her.Now she asks me ways to move on and forget him ,while I easily want to say just come back to me but it sounds way to despite.I have tried before but I can tell she is in love with him very much. I feel so betrayed by her,like all of the love letters,emails,etc..were for nothing and was a waste of my time when I denied people that actually could have loved me in that 2 year period we were talking.I am only 19 but already feel like I don't want to risk my heart again with another person.I have always been so good to her and then she decided that she couldn't trust me.She ended up losing her virginity to this guy and is homeless after leaving her family to be with him.I feel she is looking for love in the wrong place with him and should come back to me. I know she loves him and me too but she never tells me how much she loves me even when i talk to her about her problems.She broke my heart and I still want to see her happy. What should I do in the this situation? I love her and want to with her someday but she doesn't seem to feel the same,she tells me I should move on but I find it hard to after 2 years and know that she could be the one for me. Edited October 19, 2009 by Lovingnature
Ronni_W Posted October 19, 2009 Posted October 19, 2009 like all of the love letters,emails,etc..were for nothing and was a waste of my time No. It is not a "waste of time" to share your love with others. She does not appear to have fully appreciated it but that does not make what you did "wrong" or "negative" in any way. IMO, it would be unwise of you to decide to stop giving your love in the future just because some people don't know how to receive it. and know that she could be the one for me.No. She is NOT the one for you because you are not the one for her. She already told you that, according to your other thread. The end of our first love relationship is always very traumatic but we all have survived it, one way or another. Perhaps you will find some comfort in this free online version of 'How to Survive the Loss of a Love'. http://www.mcwilliams.com/books/sur/srtoc.htm In your other thread, you received suggestions to go 'no contact' and block her from being able to get in touch with you. I would strongly encourage you to consider that, so that you can give your Self a chance to gain some emotional distance and start your healing-recovery. I'm sorry that you're hurting. Hugs.
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