jimbo Posted October 19, 2009 Posted October 19, 2009 Normally we e-mail then progress on to the phone. Usually I am able to get a meet after that. Question though, should it be a pre date like something at a Starbucks or indie coffee shop or an actual date? You know, to make sure they look and say they way they describe on the profile? Also for her too to see I am what I describe? If it was the summer, I do a park pre date or something, but its the fall and its freakin cold here in the north east. So women and men, what do you think?
Johnny M Posted October 19, 2009 Posted October 19, 2009 Normally we e-mail then progress on to the phone. Usually I am able to get a meet after that. Question though, should it be a pre date like something at a Starbucks or indie coffee shop or an actual date? You know, to make sure they look and say they way they describe on the profile? Also for her too to see I am what I describe? If it was the summer, I do a park pre date or something, but its the fall and its freakin cold here in the north east. So women and men, what do you think? Regardless of what you call it, the first meeting should be something simple - i.e. meeting for drinks or coffee. Nothing more awkward than being stuck on a long date with somebody you don't want to see again.
SoulSearch_CO Posted October 19, 2009 Posted October 19, 2009 Yes, make it something simple. I don't mind doing a meal - even with someone that I don't click with. How hard is it to be civil for one little meal? But if the girl you're meeting is cool with just coffee, why not? But yes - def don't plan an entire DATE like dinner, movie, after-movie drinks. LOL If it's meant to be long like that...it will be. I planned a simple meal get-together (late lunch) with this guy and we pretty much both figured maybe an hour. We had lunch, didn't want to part - went walking in the park and talking, then ended up having dinner. It turned into a 6-hour date because we clicked so well.
Author jimbo Posted October 19, 2009 Author Posted October 19, 2009 Not sure how the meet for coffee come off. I hear mixed results. Then again, dinner in NY ain't the cheapest. On one hand, I do not want to look cheap. On the other hand, not really wanting to spend 50.00 for dinner. Puzzled on what the best thing to do is. Wasn't going to do dinner, move and drinks though. Too much.
Yukikazi Posted October 19, 2009 Posted October 19, 2009 Dude.. Invite her for drinks and apps... If it progresses to dinner.. cool.. if not.. You still got drinks to loosen yourselves up and apps to quell hunger and give you something to chat about.. food preferences and such...
Johnny M Posted October 19, 2009 Posted October 19, 2009 Not sure how the meet for coffee come off. I hear mixed results. Then again, dinner in NY ain't the cheapest. On one hand, I do not want to look cheap. On the other hand, not really wanting to spend 50.00 for dinner. Puzzled on what the best thing to do is. Wasn't going to do dinner, move and drinks though. Too much. Contrary to popular belief, dinner dates are a pretty bad idea. First of all, there's plenty of opportunity for awkward moments (i.e. putting a stain on your shirt, having a piece of food stuck between your teeth, etc.). Then there's the money aspect: why spend a lot of money on a date with someone you probably will never see again (especially if you're a guy and the woman expects you to pick up the tab)? Online dating is a numbers game. Chances are, you will go on a lot of dates before finding someone compatible....There's no reason to drive yourself into bankruptcy in the process. And then there's the possibility that the woman you're going on a date with is only interested in being taken out for dinner and has zero interest in you. Sounds lame, I know, buy there's no shortage of such women on online dating sites. If a woman is actually interested in you, it won't matter if you're meeting up over coffee or going to a fancy restaurant.
New Again Posted October 19, 2009 Posted October 19, 2009 So I guess this is an online dating question? My favorite "short date" is drinks and appetizers or coffee and dessert.
singlegirl Posted October 19, 2009 Posted October 19, 2009 I agree with johnny M....I have had dinner dates first and it's too much for the first meet...coffee is fine...I would be wary of drinks as a woman cause you never know if the man will try and ply you with booze and a bar is after all a bar. On the other hand you can drink as many coffees as you need to to keep talking if your having a good time order little morsels of food and string it out if its going well..... I also know there are women out there who maybe just sting guys for dinner....Why go bankrupt?
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