Vodka Posted October 19, 2009 Posted October 19, 2009 Sorry, I wasnt sure where to post this. I am just wondering if any of you have someone that you almost had something with that for whatever reason didnt work out that compare everyone else to and cannot seem to get over? I have had this guy friend for 4 years. We both were always seeing someone else so the chance to date never happened. We have (IMO anyways) some great chemistry and our personalities jive very well. He is the most honest person I have ever met and has very good morals. We did hook up once, but this was right before he was set to move all the way across country and it was too late for our chance. My concern is, that I will never feel about anyone the way I feel about him. He may or may not ever move back here, it will depend on his job, but I really hope he does. I'm not sure why I am posting this, just wondering if anyone else has this one person in their life they feel so strongly about? Did you ever end up with that person?
duskandsummer Posted October 19, 2009 Posted October 19, 2009 I have to say I know exactly what you are talking about, my situation is almost word for word the same as yours. I got on here just to see if anyone could help me out. You aren't alone in this I promise. I am just really sorry you are having to go through it..because its truly painful.
Author Vodka Posted October 19, 2009 Author Posted October 19, 2009 What is your story, if you don't mind sharing?
duskandsummer Posted October 19, 2009 Posted October 19, 2009 Ill try to keep it short. grew up with a guy..I moved..6 years later he found me and we caught up. We never had the chance to date. I always thought of him as the kid next door, and he had girlfriends. We hooked up though, we would talk about hooking up and he made it seem like he wasn't hooking up with anyone else. Well once I realized I really felt something more for him, things got weird. He stopped looking for me, calling me, texting me. He at one point deleted my number or what he said "forgot to put in his new phone". At this point he has a girlfriend he has been with for 2 years, I didn't worry about it because he was texting me almost every night. Well he moved away to college a few months ago I wished him luck and left it at that. Recently I texted and again..he pulls the who is this card. So he deleted my number again. He will come back for breaks and stuff but idk. I compare every guy to him. He is a sweet guy, has good morals loves his family and is doing good things with his life. He has everything I want and more. I never thought I would fall but I did. Now I feel like I wasted time caring for someone who doesn't care that I even exist. I don't know if this is word for word like your situation..but I kind of know how you feel. He has hurt me like no one else has but I still don't see him as anything less than perfect. I blame myself more than anything.
Author Vodka Posted October 19, 2009 Author Posted October 19, 2009 Oh, that sucks. I wonder why he stopped texting you and calling you? Was it after you hooked up? My friend actually has never been mean to me, we always talk on MSN, we even talked and flirted a lot while he had a girlfriend. He would never cheat, but she did think the odd time that something were going on.
duskandsummer Posted October 19, 2009 Posted October 19, 2009 Well see thats the thing. He may do things that would seem really douchebagish like he is a jerk. But he has never said anything to hurt me. Like he will avoid letting me know things that he would know hurt me. Yes he cheated which doesn't make his morals all that good, but I always thought I was there first so its not really all that bad. I dont know it sounds stupid but its so easy to sugarcoat things when it comes to him. I dont know what to do now you know..like I cant see myself ending up with anyone else, but how can I keep caring and aching for someone who doesn't care for me. Who I guess just lost interest..I don't know.
Author Vodka Posted October 19, 2009 Author Posted October 19, 2009 What if you give him an ultimatum?
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