scipio Posted October 19, 2009 Posted October 19, 2009 A girl that broke up with me years ago contacted me a couple of months back through fbook. I still had feelings for her because since i chatted with her and she indicated an interest i started thinking about her more and more. Anyway, I got the feeling that she was either playing with my head or just reaching out to me in a low point for her,...so a few days ago i deleted her from my list. I felt good then,...but ever since I still think about her and feeling the same melancholy as a breakup. To say the least I'm disappointed in myself for feeling this way.
Soul Bear Posted October 19, 2009 Posted October 19, 2009 (edited) You are not a weak person by any means. It takes courage and strength to ask for help Bro, she left you...remember how you felt when she did that before? Her loss now. Take satisfaction in the fact she made an effort to get back in touch, whatever her reason. And now YOU are the one to say no. You said no, you deleted her. Well done! I really don't know why you are being so hard on yourself. You did well. Edited October 19, 2009 by Soul Bear
Soul Bear Posted October 19, 2009 Posted October 19, 2009 Those feelings you're having are just old wounds. Deal with them- just sit on them, don't act on them, don't think, just let it all be and flow over you. Don't try and fight whatever thoughts you are having. Your mind will process them and deal with them accordingly. What you resist will persist....when you stop resisting your wounds will heal....
Author scipio Posted October 19, 2009 Author Posted October 19, 2009 Dude,..you seriously made me feel better.
Author scipio Posted October 19, 2009 Author Posted October 19, 2009 Those feelings you're having are just old wounds. Deal with them- just sit on them, don't act on them, don't think, just let it all be and flow over you. Don't try and fight whatever thoughts you are having. Your mind will process them and deal with them accordingly. What you resist will persist....when you stop resisting your wounds will heal.... When we chatted a couple of months ago it really brought back memories. Those chats were intense but not much further from either side after that. And I could feel the hope coming back that it might work. And now I find myself in a situation where I'm angry at myself for hoping in the first place,... and I'm also angry at myself for taking away that hope by cutting contact.
Author scipio Posted October 19, 2009 Author Posted October 19, 2009 Also,.. every once in a while,..i'd be fine one minute and then think about being with her,...and this would give me intense pain in the in the pit of my stomach. I seriously feel lost. This shouldn't be happening,..thats what I keep telling myself.
TheLoneSock Posted October 19, 2009 Posted October 19, 2009 You were fine before she contacted you bro. The fact that your life has been injected with new pain since she decided to show up says VOLUMES. It is proof that it has no place in your life. We are tested all throughout our lives, this is one of those times. You did well. What does she know right now? She knows that she got in touch with someone she dumped- she probably expected you to be a happy little puppy. But what happened? You rejected her. That's all she knows right now. She knows she got deleted and ignored by someone who's heart she once broke. That sends a clear message. If you were still in a weak state like you think you are, you would not have been able to turn her away. You don't give yourself enough credit. Life goes on. And oh is it a beautiful thing or what?
Soul Bear Posted October 19, 2009 Posted October 19, 2009 Also,.. every once in a while,..i'd be fine one minute and then think about being with her,...and this would give me intense pain in the in the pit of my stomach. I seriously feel lost. This shouldn't be happening,..thats what I keep telling myself. Yes it should be happening! You are a human in healing and transformation. The hurt is the BEST bit. It's like the icing on the cake, because of what you learn from it and what you take away. Think of it almost as medicine for your soul. Or like an antidote. When you get bitten by a snake you need antivenom. Antivenom is created from fatal venom. ....get me?? Also you will learn how to look out for dangerous snakes in the future so as it doesn't happen again You are so close to coming out of the other side it's not even funny...
Author scipio Posted October 20, 2009 Author Posted October 20, 2009 You were fine before she contacted you bro. The fact that your life has been injected with new pain since she decided to show up says VOLUMES. It is proof that it has no place in your life. We are tested all throughout our lives, this is one of those times. You did well. What does she know right now? She knows that she got in touch with someone she dumped- she probably expected you to be a happy little puppy. But what happened? You rejected her. That's all she knows right now. She knows she got deleted and ignored by someone who's heart she once broke. That sends a clear message. If you were still in a weak state like you think you are, you would not have been able to turn her away. You don't give yourself enough credit. Life goes on. And oh is it a beautiful thing or what? I never thought of it that way, wow,.thanks for the new perspective. If anything I get to exit with my dignity. I can't lie though,..there is still sadness at a loss,...or a perceived loss.
Author scipio Posted October 20, 2009 Author Posted October 20, 2009 Yes it should be happening! You are a human in healing and transformation. The hurt is the BEST bit. It's like the icing on the cake, because of what you learn from it and what you take away. Think of it almost as medicine for your soul. Or like an antidote. When you get bitten by a snake you need antivenom. Antivenom is created from fatal venom. ....get me?? Also you will learn how to look out for dangerous snakes in the future so as it doesn't happen again You are so close to coming out of the other side it's not even funny... Thanks man,..you really now how to lighten the mood. You should think about a career in counseling or something. I think perhaps I didn't fully recover the last time around,..but maybe this a new opportunity to do that.
JaggedRoad Posted October 20, 2009 Posted October 20, 2009 I think everyone here should start a clinic together and capitalize on other people's unfortunate broken hearts. Am I being too much of a capitalist?
Soul Bear Posted October 20, 2009 Posted October 20, 2009 I think everyone here should start a clinic together and capitalize on other people's unfortunate broken hearts. Am I being too much of a capitalist? I wouldn't pay for my advice...sometimes it's terrible! Good advice is always free If you can give advice to yourself and take it it's even better. On on the Alter ego- The thought did cross my mind.lol
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