lovelovesick Posted October 19, 2009 Posted October 19, 2009 Hey everyone. This is my first post. I am breaking up with my BF tonite and i need some support/advice. I don't want to break up and my stomach hurts and I am crying every day. We have been together for about 7 months. It's a long distance relationship and we see each other every week or two. But he has changed and just seems to be disinterested. He is a great guy, but I don't feel part of his life. He no longer texts or calls me throughout the day, and over all things have just really changed. I love him and do want to be with him very much. He used to taqlk about our future and tell me how much I mean to him. But now, it seems like I am waiting every day for him to say something-anything to let me know he loves me. He does say I love you at the end of each phone conversation, but that's all. when I have tried to bring this subject up, he just seems to get angry-I can't talk to him about it. And it seems like a double standard, because he always expects ME to call HIM. Lately he has done things like-go out to dinner w/clients and not text/call me to say he is going to be late(3 hours) and when I ask he just gets mad and says it would be rude to text or excuse himself. Last nite he was volunteering somewhere and didnt get done until1:am and didn't bother to text to let me know how late it would be-we have always talked every nite. It may seem like a lame reason to break up but it just bothers me all the time and I cant seem to focus on other things I need to focus on like my kids and work. I feel unloved by him-even though he says he does love me. It just seems to me like it is always a burden for him to call me etc.,.. but when we are together we are intimate and he seems to love me. I am confused. So I just thought I would tell him that I love him, but I feel left out of his life and unsure about his feelings and feel unable to talk to him about stuff and tell him that it isn't fair to him or me because I am always expecting more from him and he gets annoyed with me-and I am just sad all the time. Can anyone give me any feedback or tips or what they think about what I'm saying?/ thank you guys so much
Lamak Posted October 19, 2009 Posted October 19, 2009 Make sure you've made an effort to tell him how you feel. Once you break up with him, there's no turning back.
Author lovelovesick Posted October 19, 2009 Author Posted October 19, 2009 thanks Lamak. My biggest fear is that when I tell him about it-and tell him I what to break up, he won't even really care
You'reasian Posted October 19, 2009 Posted October 19, 2009 Hey everyone. This is my first post. I am breaking up with my BF tonite and i need some support/advice. I don't want to break up and my stomach hurts and I am crying every day. We have been together for about 7 months. It's a long distance relationship and we see each other every week or two. But he has changed and just seems to be disinterested. He is a great guy, but I don't feel part of his life. He no longer texts or calls me throughout the day, and over all things have just really changed. I love him and do want to be with him very much. He used to taqlk about our future and tell me how much I mean to him. But now, it seems like I am waiting every day for him to say something-anything to let me know he loves me. He does say I love you at the end of each phone conversation, but that's all. when I have tried to bring this subject up, he just seems to get angry-I can't talk to him about it. And it seems like a double standard, because he always expects ME to call HIM. Lately he has done things like-go out to dinner w/clients and not text/call me to say he is going to be late(3 hours) and when I ask he just gets mad and says it would be rude to text or excuse himself. Last nite he was volunteering somewhere and didnt get done until1:am and didn't bother to text to let me know how late it would be-we have always talked every nite. It may seem like a lame reason to break up but it just bothers me all the time and I cant seem to focus on other things I need to focus on like my kids and work. I feel unloved by him-even though he says he does love me. It just seems to me like it is always a burden for him to call me etc.,.. but when we are together we are intimate and he seems to love me. I am confused. So I just thought I would tell him that I love him, but I feel left out of his life and unsure about his feelings and feel unable to talk to him about stuff and tell him that it isn't fair to him or me because I am always expecting more from him and he gets annoyed with me-and I am just sad all the time. Can anyone give me any feedback or tips or what they think about what I'm saying?/ thank you guys so much Face to face talk - that's the only way. Tell him how you feel. What you want. What you need. Be careful what you ask for....because you just might get it
Surfgal Posted October 19, 2009 Posted October 19, 2009 thanks Lamak. My biggest fear is that when I tell him about it-and tell him I what to break up, he won't even really care I have to agree. Just make sure this is what you truly want. I know we all have expectations in how we want our perfect relationships but sometimes that is impossible. It always seem to appear that one party loves the other party more...but that may not always be the case. We just all move at different times. Some of us take longer and some just know. Please think about it before you tell him. Good Luck!
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