brwniyedgrl Posted October 19, 2009 Posted October 19, 2009 Their is this girl name rae my boyfriend told me before we started dating that his friends thought she liked him, but nothing ever cross that boundry. My boyfriend goes to TSU be he has to stay home this semester due to health issues. He visited TSU in the middle of sept. to meet up with old friends/ move things in his apt, his dad joined along. During lunch yesterday my boyfriend to tell me a story that he thought would be comical, but it turned out to not be so comical at least not me. My boyfriends dad started to talk to his wife about how he thinks there is chemistry between rae and my boyfriend. His dad talked to her while my boyfriend was in another room. So now his mom is wanting to meet her too see what shes like. Also, another thing my boyfriend told me that she said was that she didn't think I could challenge him intellectually enough. So I am complete hurt...i just don't get why he would think it be okay to tell me those sort of things.
JustLooking123 Posted October 19, 2009 Posted October 19, 2009 How do you know his dad said that? What was your boyfriend's role in all of this - did he defend you, encourage his parents, or what? What was your boyfriend's tone when he told you that his mom thinks you're not smart enough for him?
Author brwniyedgrl Posted October 19, 2009 Author Posted October 19, 2009 He told me his dad told him that..he brought it on as though he was going to tell me something funny. With his mom..it came up casually as though he wasn't thinking before he spoke...i ask him why didn't defend me and he said he did he changed the subject with his mom.
The.One Posted October 19, 2009 Posted October 19, 2009 Well, this is simple enough. He's a guy. He's actually craving attention. Why do guys tell their girlfriends this? For the same reason that girls tell their boyfriends about the guys that check them out at the gym. There are a few reasons why he's talking this way. And I'll break it down point by point. Are you an attractive female? If so, it might be a jab at you. To make you feel like you're less and you're lucky to be with him. That way he keeps you around because you feel like "Well, there are girls that he has more chemistry with, but I'm so lucky to be with him." This is usually something that very immature guys do, but it does happen. I would say that is most likely. I know to some it might sound far-fetched, but it is a premise that happens often whether guys admit to it or not. It just makes sense. Next, he's just being completely honest and has a weird sense of honesty. In that case, you just have to ask yourself, "Do you love him, is he worth my time, and if he actually thinks this sort of thing is funny, is that a trait I look for in a man?" If his health issues are that he has some really idiotic learning curve, then this is possible. No MAN will say that something like that is a smart thing to say to your girl. It hurts her. How is that funny? Alright kiddo, I'm sure you're a sweet gal, but there's two ways about it, and sadly, neither are things you can discuss with him. One, he's like this, striving for attention, and is attempting to put you down so you appreciate being with him more. Or two, he actually thinks it's funny. If you're wondering if you can handle that, then sure, be with him. If it doesn't make you feel good, if it doesn't feel right, or it leads you to a forum to ask if you should "break up with him" rather than "talk to him" then go ahead and dump him. You were already thinking about it.
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