lone-wolf Posted October 18, 2009 Posted October 18, 2009 ok i am a very shy person in person. but online i can talk about anything and be open and not shy at all... how do i get over being shy so maybe i can find that one girl for me?
jinx55 Posted October 19, 2009 Posted October 19, 2009 I used to be shy when I was younger. Some tips from my own experience though however would be find some friends first that help build your confidence. Don't act shy around them, most people are so worried about what other people think that they in certain social situations aren't themselves. Find a friend who is confident/outgoing and hang out with them. You don't have to be that person but you can learn their qualities that make them outgoing around others. Remember if you do start to become outgoing people aren't going to like you one way or another that is just how people are, but there are also 6+billion people on this planet so who cares if a handful of people dislike you. Basically if you treat people with respect you can be as outgoing as you want, infact respect+outspokenness = success not only with friends but in your life in general. I don't mean kiss people's asses all the time I mean be honest and enjoy the little things with people and it will break off your shyness slowly but surely.
Odyssey Posted October 19, 2009 Posted October 19, 2009 I think everyone get shy / scared when they are put in an environment they're not familiar with. For me it's the same, i had to keep forcing myself to repeatedly face my fears. Be it standing in front a lot of strangers giving a speech or presentation, or talking to strangers, I just had to do it over and over again until i got used to it. Like everything else, takes plenty of practice. Same with shyness, face your fears and eventually you'll over-come them.
alphamale Posted October 19, 2009 Posted October 19, 2009 (edited) ... how do i get over being shy some things come with age and experience my young jedi.....at this moment shy you may be, but in time see you will Edited October 19, 2009 by alphamale
Author lone-wolf Posted October 19, 2009 Author Posted October 19, 2009 some things come with age and experience my young jedi.....at this moment shy you may be, but in time see you will lol thank you that made me smile. your all right. one i do need to face it cause it is my fear... saddly enough i have tried to keep it hiden that i have no fear but none the less it a fear to me. and i dont like it. but idk how to go about it. like should i just walk out side and start talking to stainghers or what?
Odyssey Posted October 19, 2009 Posted October 19, 2009 ...but idk how to go about it. like should i just walk out side and start talking to stainghers or what? Start of small, by talking to people you're already comfortable with (e.g. family and friends) and try to keep the conversation going for longer each time. Then scale it up a bit and make small talk with strangers when the opportunity arise, ask questions and relate by telling them your opinion or past experience. Add some humour - that always breaks the ice for me! Each time try and keep the chat going for longer... Hope this helps. Now go forth and converse with the world.
Ronni_W Posted October 19, 2009 Posted October 19, 2009 ok i am a very shy person in person. but online i can talk about anything and be open and not shy at all Have you considered joining a Toastmasters group? I know people whose self-confidence pretty much skyrocketed (it's more than just about public speaking, so I am told.) ToastMasters.org Shyness can also be to cover a deeper fear of rejection...but that would need your self-reflection to find out if and to what extent this might apply to your situation. Best of luck.
Author lone-wolf Posted October 20, 2009 Author Posted October 20, 2009 well your all helping a lot and thank you
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