fabulous_chk Posted October 18, 2009 Posted October 18, 2009 Basically, he cheated on me, dumped me, had a messy relationship with the girl he cheated on me with. About 8 months later post-break-up he wants me back. Crying, pleading....saying he loves me more than ever, he'll make it up to me, would do everything... Ended up sleeping with him. Bad I know, coz I'm going out with someone new. Ex says I'm cheating on him LOL! That I'm his common law spouse (wut?) of four years. Anyways, the thing is...I don't want him back. And you guys will probably have a similar reaction months from now.
boldjack Posted October 27, 2009 Posted October 27, 2009 Fab, If YOU don't want him back, then don't sleep with him!! You are sending mixed signals, big time. You have to take control of the situation, because he isn't mature or strong enough to do so.
trueblue72ny Posted October 27, 2009 Posted October 27, 2009 i guess you will have to tell him you dont want him back because he seems to think you do. not sure really.
Odyssey Posted October 27, 2009 Posted October 27, 2009 Ex says I'm cheating on him LOL! That I'm his common law spouse (wut?) of four years. WTF?!? I'll ignore it 'cause it doesn't make sense. My ex came begging back for a 2nd chance too, but i did have doubts and was confused like you. But i guess you just have to cut through all the BS drama and ask yourself - what's best for you? i think you already know the answer.
Thebob Posted October 27, 2009 Posted October 27, 2009 why are you writing on this forum, you know what you need to do. Don't sleep with him again and move on.
Back2dabasics Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 IMO, you shouldn't have slept with him. so after 8 months a light bulb turns on in this head and he's like i wanna get back her. that's very unfair to you. try to move on. don't let him sweet talk to you. think about the present and the future.
Odyssey Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 you do want him back, thats why you slept with him. apart of you still has feelings and your fawking two dudes - not cool whore Hey easy there. No need to be hostile, she's done nothing to you.
Soul Bear Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 you do want him back, thats why you slept with him. apart of you still has feelings and your fawking two dudes - not cool whore Just hold your horses. That is very unfair. Where is your tact? At the end of the day, it's to late for what if's and what you should and should not have done. But I strongly suggest you stop with ALL men.Just stop. Take some time to yourself, otherwise you are going to end up branded as the above quotation n a mass basis.... I think you are lonely, and you want to be in love. You are In love with love?? Im sure you would agree that it has been major DRAAAAMMAAAAA since you and your ex split, and im sure you can see as well as I can, and others too that you really need to get your **** together......lets be honest here, you know as well as I do that you are living on cloud cukoo right now... Stop with all the guys. Take care of yourself first. If you are feeling frisky, take care of yourself. If you want to hang out, call the girls. Guys in your life right now are only going to make things worse for you. Im not going to preach at you, because you and I have talked about this a million times over, and i know that YOU know what you need to do.... Its not going to happen on its own, and the sooner you start, the sooner you will be in a better place. --Hugs--
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