Soloboy Posted October 18, 2009 Posted October 18, 2009 (edited) Well since Sept 19th We broke up after a 3 year relationship and living together, I did the No Contact thing for 2 weeks. I then found out that she is with a guy Her brother hooked her up with in another Country. She is back in the States ATL, GA. Where I reside also. I asked does she like this guy, She keeps saying I dont know, its just a Phone relationship. So shes been going out with this guy for about 2 1/2 months and I found out she played me while she was in LAOS on her vacation. She didnt break up with me until she got back to the States. Fast forward to today. We've been hanging out as "friends" for about a week straight. Went and watched Couples retreat and Paranormal Activity together and hit up a Haunted house. She always brings up how much she misses how we used to be. She doesnt bring up the "Other guy". But she says she loves me. Im confused. She has a BF in LAOS thats 10,000+ miles away. And she does still sleep with me and hugs me and kisses me. I was kool with her mom and brother. But now she tries to hide me from them, as if they dont want me around her house no more. So I keep my distance from going to her house. but she still finds a way to come see me and visits me. She is moving to Cali, but she said she will visit me every so often, and She's just going because her Brother and her mom is Moving there. And she has to go wherever her Mom and Brother goes. Im 24 and she's 20. Seems like Im in the settling down stage, and shes in the "I Dont know what I want stage". Please can someone give me some Advice. We are friends but she keeps bringing up our past and the memories we have together. And she calls me and makes me sleep with her on the phone... I also found out since I have her Email Password. That she buys 10 dollar calling cards to call this guy in LAOS every other week. Does she really like this guy. This guy is her Brothers good Friend. She said its going to be hard for her to let him go because its going to make her Brother look bad. HMM im Confused. Its like she got herself into a relationship she cant get out of. Because of her brothers Reputation in another Country. Worst of All she still has a Myspace of me and her up. She deleted her Facebook. Its sad to see this each time I get on my myspace. Edited October 18, 2009 by Soloboy
symbol Posted October 19, 2009 Posted October 19, 2009 I don't really know what to say... Did you ask her to stop talking to him? I think she doesn't want to lose you in case things don't work out with the other guy and in any case, he's so far away, she might be feeling that she still needs someone close to her. I think I would try to talk to her and tell her that she has to make up her mind about you. If she still loves you and wants to be with you, then she should stop talking to the other guy. And, frankly, I don't buy the whole not wanting to hurt his brother's reputation thing. Good luck!
symbol Posted October 19, 2009 Posted October 19, 2009 Because you guys are hanging out as "friends", she really has no incentive to end things with the other guy. She has not lost anything, specifically, she has not lost you, because of the other guy. I think talking to her, and depending on her answer, going NC with her might be your best bet.
Author Soloboy Posted October 19, 2009 Author Posted October 19, 2009 I dont know. Last night we Skyped all night. She was saying she still loves me and she still interested in me. Im kinda confused. Should I just say its Either me or him. She's already BF and GF with him in another Country. That is so weird. She keeps saying its just a Phone relationship, But her buying 10 dollar calling cards each week and him calling her all the time gotta mean somethings going strongly about them two... Another note, She's moving to Cali near the end of this year. and She is going to Cali for 1 month or 2 months to see how she likes it there. If she likes it then she's going to move there for good. Im in a tight situation right now. What should I do. When I did the No Contact thing today while doing community service, She started texting me and calling me all day saying why you avoiding me. I felt bad and gave in a texted her back. its hard to do the No Contact thing when you've done everything together. Meaning EVERYTHING. **** together, Bathe together, Anything you can name we did together. This is the longest relationship I've had and I want it to be the last. But it sucks to know we're just friends and She has a BF in another country.
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