NoIDidn't Posted October 20, 2009 Posted October 20, 2009 This is just another form of 'getting off' on being the OW. She feels she is in a position of authority because she knows something that the W does not. There really is no way to not come off as Gloating in this instance. I agree with Dela. Why focus on what she is doing if you have nothing to do with her? Why not tell him to tell her the truth so she won't wonder if you are certain that he isn't leaving and neither is she? No threat to your free sex, right? Please explain the purpose of this question. Is it to help you or someone else?
jnj express Posted October 21, 2009 Posted October 21, 2009 YOU AND YOUR MM. AP. ARE BOTH PIECES OF S**T---You are homewrecking and destroying an innocent family---and you know it---nothing more needs to be said---except that here is hoping you someday will be a betrayed spouse and then you will know what the pain and hurt is like, right now you are just a lily-livered chicken s**t.
LifesontheUp Posted October 21, 2009 Posted October 21, 2009 Wow............yet another post showing the selfishness and how self absorbed some people can be. We DO NOT live, I repeat DO NOT live in a bubble. What we do in our lives has an effect on others. You are in complete denial if you think that what you are doing will not effect you and his wife when she does find out. Go on, tell her, you're spending an awful lot of time thinking about it so go ahead and tell her. I'm sure once she does get proof then I wouldn't be surprised if he drops you like a hot potatoe. You'll be yesterdays left overs and somehow I don't think you will be very happy. That smugness that comes over in your posts won't be there any longer. Sounds harsh eh? Nowhere near the harsh reality of what his wife will go through when she finds out. But, of course she doesn't matter to you, this other human being....after all your not hurting her are you? you're only helping her husband do that
Dexter Morgan Posted October 21, 2009 Posted October 21, 2009 YOU AND YOUR MM. AP. ARE BOTH PIECES OF S**T---You are homewrecking and destroying an innocent family---and you know it---nothing more needs to be said---except that here is hoping you someday will be a betrayed spouse and then you will know what the pain and hurt is like, right now you are just a lily-livered chicken s**t. Wow! and they say I'm harsh!!
Dexter Morgan Posted October 21, 2009 Posted October 21, 2009 Sounds harsh eh? Nowhere near the harsh reality of what his wife will go through when she finds out. ok, this will be off topic, then back to the thread. The above is something I've mentioned over and over. Seems too many don't like harsh words to their situations and are more concerned about words on an internet forum rather than the harsh treatment they are causing someone in real life. you just want to sometimes give them a big "boo hoo" since they feel they have the right to hurt people IRL, but are offended here:o
Author skylarblue Posted October 23, 2009 Author Posted October 23, 2009 (edited) Being as PC as I can - Originally Posted by mybrowneyedgirl i *think* i might understand a bit. his BS keeps focusing on the little details instead of the big picture… but - in the end she has him. Exactly. I wish I could say “Stop worrying. He loves you, doesn’t feel anything for me. He’s not going anywhere. You’re driving yourself crazy for nothing. You win.” I think some BS (not every situation) don’t recognize that they’ve won or understand that they are fighting a fight that they don’t have to. Just take the opportunity to fix/strengthen the M and be happy instead of trying to discover things that you may wish you hadn’t or obsessing and destroying what can be saved. Obviously, the consensus is I’m wrong and warped (to say the least) in my thinking. So, I’ll just end any further entertainment with a post from another thread that kinda says what I’m trying to get across. Originally Posted by lovefantasy …I can tell you this much -- there is no correspondence between me and my xAP (I cheated first) and my H seems a lot less obsessed with the details of my affair than I have been with his. Not sure it's scientific, but I can help wonder if the lack of information available to him has actually helped him. Edited October 23, 2009 by skylarblue
Island Girl Posted October 23, 2009 Posted October 23, 2009 I just think that some are better off not knowing. They will make that decision for themselves about what they want to know and do not want to know. That is AS IT SHOULD BE. It IS after all THEIR relationship - their commitment to each other. Would YOU appreciate someone else telling you what is important to know and not know in ANY relationship YOU have? I think not. It looks like you have no ability to put yourself in anyone else's shoes and certainly lack empathy to say the least.
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