TenderKiss Posted October 18, 2009 Posted October 18, 2009 OMG, i am such a bad person...me ex-b is happy again, and i cant stand it...not that i want him to be unhappy, no. i just want him to be happy with me...or at least not SO happy while i am still bleeding... he broke my heart so badly...is it normal to feel like this after 8 months since breakup? we didnt even spoke to finish it properly, he said he got tired of repeating same things and just went NC...i almost lost my mind because we were together for 6 years and he ended it this way...and now he is happy again...it is so cruel
Lamak Posted October 18, 2009 Posted October 18, 2009 It's pretty pathetic that he had to go NC on you. You have to disregard the fact that you were together for 6 years, because that was the past. Let him live his life however the hell he wants to, and start living your own life. Stop with the negative mindset and pick yourself out the mud. You shouldn't allow him to hold your life hostage, because he didn't give you closure. Closure comes from within, not the other party. I could keep going, but blah.
Author TenderKiss Posted October 18, 2009 Author Posted October 18, 2009 I re-read my post...i can imagine how it have to look to you. that i am a pathetic woman who´s man had to go NC with her so she will understand it is over. i was full of emotions when i wrote it, and still i am. but it was not the case. we had our wonderful times and also some storms. never anything so significant, that i would even think of ending it. it never ever came on my mind. he kept repeating that we were not good for each other, but then proposed me. he said we were too different but we moved together. when he said he needs some time and i went to my sister he called me in few days and said he can not be without me. he had it hard in life, so i tried to be there for him, no matter what. but because of work i was traveling a lot. and he also...well, i really still can not believe it ended up like this...
Eisenhower Posted October 18, 2009 Posted October 18, 2009 I know, when you know their happy and you're not, it just makes you feel all the lonelier. Totally understandable. I'm sorry for your pain.
EricaH329 Posted October 18, 2009 Posted October 18, 2009 It's pretty pathetic that he had to go NC on you. You have to disregard the fact that you were together for 6 years, because that was the past. Let him live his life however the hell he wants to, and start living your own life. Stop with the negative mindset and pick yourself out the mud. You shouldn't allow him to hold your life hostage, because he didn't give you closure. Closure comes from within, not the other party. I could keep going, but blah. I completely agree with Lamak. I think you haven't given yourself the time to properly heal. Accepting reality is one of the hardest stages in healing. Sure, you can't imagine that it would have ended, and especially the way that it did... but... in reality... it did. Now you need to move forward. I wouldn't pay any attention to what he's doing, or how he's doing. Even if he decides to tell you how he's doing, it shouldn't matter either way. He isn't in your life anymore, and the situation should be handled as such. I mean, it must feel terrible to have these feelings, right? Time to make a change, so that you don't need to go through this anymore. You shouldn't care about anyone else except for yourself (with the exception of people who care about you), but most certainly not him. Pay attention to what your mind is telling you. What your feelings are telling you. They are screaming for air. They don't want to continue to feel this way. You are the only one who can change that.
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