627 Posted October 18, 2009 Posted October 18, 2009 ok here is the scenario there is a girl I like(I'm 20 years old she's 19), we've known each other for a year now, we're... friends. we met through a local internet forum, when the forum members decided we should all meet in person, and this is why we see each other like 5 times a year(last year neither of us had a car and so meeting was restricted to the big forum meetings), we chat alot, so we are basicly friends(I don't do internet flirting after all and all the chat were about her telling me her problems and me listening) well now things are a bit different, I have a car(finaly) she and her parents moved to some house in a very distant area where there is no internet and no competition (yay for me) so I am thinking of asking her out however I am not sure what to say and how to do so(I was invited to her place yesterday for lunch, along with some of our friends, she is bored out of her brains in that area) she lives like 40 km from my house so, if I ask her out, I have no clue where to take her plus I am worried that I would come off maybe too needy or something, since I'd basicly be willing to drive 40 KM just to take her out to lunch and how should I phrase the "asking out" sentence, she's a good friend, I am worried that if she turns my offer down, it'd be awkward later also text message or call? I get nervous on the phone option 2 would be to arrange some kind of meeting or outing with our mutual friends and then picking her up to go to it, that'd be less pressure maybe to begin with, but I doubt it brings me closer to my goal(of eventualy starting a relationship) so help
Soul Bear Posted October 18, 2009 Posted October 18, 2009 Why don't you guys go on a walk in the woods or something, or go and see a waterfall. Don't arrange something with mutual friends unless you want it to be just that- a gathering of friends. As you get older, you tend to not 'ask people out'...it's more of an unspoken agreement, and when the time is right you agree to be exclusive. But if you want to aske her out, I would just come out and say it. You have nothing to lose go go go
Author 627 Posted October 18, 2009 Author Posted October 18, 2009 Why don't you guys go on a walk in the woods or something, or go and see a waterfall. Don't arrange something with mutual friends unless you want it to be just that- a gathering of friends. As you get older, you tend to not 'ask people out'...it's more of an unspoken agreement, and when the time is right you agree to be exclusive. But if you want to aske her out, I would just come out and say it. You have nothing to lose go go go ok *scratches out the mutual friends option* but I need you to walk me through the procedure here I can't just drive over to her place and ring the door, and when she opens and asks what am I doing here "oh I was just in the neighborhood and thought we could take a walk around..." I doubt there is anything to see in that area plus she hates walking edit: I am a complete dating noob, so when giving me advice, assume I am some alien who was installed in a man's body and be specific about stuff I need some magical manuel with a high success rate or something
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