gypsi Posted October 18, 2009 Posted October 18, 2009 Hi everyone So we broke up 8 months ago and have been no contact for 3 months. So last night i go out on a date and we descided to go out to a bar when we got there guess who is there aswell...my ex with her previous ex!!! She came straight over to greeet me and asked me how i am ect. I was in a state of shock and kept it very brief and walked away, avoiding her the whole night. My heart was beating like crazy i was so sad seeing her with her ex i dont know if they are back together i didnt ask. The bar closed and i left without saying goodbye to her as i walked out she rand after to me and asked why i didnt say goodbye to her?? I said sorry and gave her a hug goodbye. Now i am still crazy about this girl, but i am shattered after seeing her with her ex it hurts so much. Why was she so friendly? I am not dating this girl i was there with in fact i am not interested in her its purely platonic now she must think i am with someone which sucks aswelll! Should i text her and ask her out for coffee (my ex) i really miss her so much last night just threw me back in to depro mode i only want her. Guess i am just wondering if she felt the same adrenaline rush when she saw me, or if shes just being friendly and polite. Was me leaving without saying goodbye a bad thing? Should i text her and ask her for a drink? Or is that pathetic?
NSW768 Posted October 18, 2009 Posted October 18, 2009 no. do not text her. you ll only extend the hurt. she was with someone. let it be.
Soul Bear Posted October 18, 2009 Posted October 18, 2009 hahaha...she saw you with your date? Brilliant. No don't text her, don't call her, don't even give her the time of day. She is part of your past. Personally, I think even hugging her was a bad idea. By all means be civil should you pass each other in the street, but there is no need to make this any harder for yourself, and there is no need to make this easier for her.
onewillburn Posted October 18, 2009 Posted October 18, 2009 You're a bit anxious after seeing her. Give it a few days and you'll go back to feeling stronger. If you don't, give it a few days more. You'll get over this. Do not get in touch with her, though. There's no point in analyzing why she was happy to see you. She could have been playing games, she could have been genuine. Who knows. She was with her ex, isn't that a little insulting to you? You were with somebody, too. Keep trying to move on and stop freaking out about seeing her. Find that inner strength, man. It will only hurt you even more if you start contacting your ex again.
Lamak Posted October 18, 2009 Posted October 18, 2009 No! Don't contact her. Just stick to your guns and stay with NC.
Author gypsi Posted October 19, 2009 Author Posted October 19, 2009 it was insulting seeing her with her ex. But then again i dont know if they were actually back on or just friends. I still want her back so it makes this damn no contact thing sooooo hard. I am moving out of town in 2 weeks so i thought maybe i should just meet up with her before i leave i wont ever see her again. Last i heard she is going over seas aswell.
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