gavinus Posted October 18, 2009 Posted October 18, 2009 (edited) I have posted many times about her. Bascially she used, abused me, dumped me with little remorse, regret etc (we were together for 3 years). I think she may have BPD. My therapist and people have looked at me in horror after I told them how she treated me. Anyway I bumped into her near the supermarket, before I knew what was happening I was in her car talking. This person affected my life to the point of losing my sanity. Anyway I brought up the past as for months of NC it has been eating away at me. I told her some of the things she told me, she denied them. I then said to her "I extend an offer for you to come to therapy with me to see the impact you have had on my life" She went nuts. She said why did I want to do that to punish her etc. I said no not at all. The conversation finished, I said take care (force of habit) and that was that. I then sent a text that said "All the years we were together I never did anything in order to make you feel guilty or to punish you. My offer of therapy was the same. I feel you overreacted with your behavior. You did not give me the chance to say what and why I made the offer. I always saw the best in you and I wish you had done the same for me today. I hope you find your connection to you own feelings, other peoples and mine (she is going to therapy). give my love to the cats" That was it. I have no idea if she got the message or not. For months I have been feeling guilt about not sending her a birthday gift....and on her birthday she was not in town but partying elsewhere. I think offering the choice to come to therapy with me was a lot better than being horrible to her. I realize she does not want me in her life because she only wants people around her who tell her how great she is. It sucks, how can you get through to somebody who cares only for themselves...and lives only for their own gratification at the expense of hurting others. Was asking her to come to therapy a horrible thing to say? Back to NC again, thanks for listening, comments are welcome Edited October 18, 2009 by gavinus
Chrome Barracuda Posted October 18, 2009 Posted October 18, 2009 dude why are you even talking to her in the first place!!! Something is Effing wrong with this woman! leave her alone!!! Stop texting and interacting with her, it does you no good!
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