kimflute26 Posted October 18, 2009 Posted October 18, 2009 I'm realizing that every friendship I've ever formed has ended or sort of faded away for one reason or another. Usually it was just a case of not being in the same place, switching schools, and just losing touch. I know a guy who met his best friend in middle school. They ended up going to the same high school, and now the same college... They're best friends and are together aaaallll the time. During some of my nights alone I find myself wishing I had that kind of bond with someone... the kind where you just know you've got that one person you can count on, even when your romances and other crap in your life isn't going well. I guess I'm only 20 and I still have time to form that kind of friendship... but I ask myself, how? It's so hard meeting that kind of a friend.... Life is just HARD! lol
Pedigree Posted October 18, 2009 Posted October 18, 2009 To me, whether or not someone becomes a lifelong friends (or continues to be a good friend) comes down to whether or not both sides want to continue being friends no matter how drastically circumstances changed.
Big Star Posted October 18, 2009 Posted October 18, 2009 hey kim. It's easy to worry about meeting new friends and interesting people generally. I have quite a few friends that I've known for a very long time. In the past they have been people with whom I've been very close to before things in my life happened that were quite devastating. Even though I still see them quite a bit and we are good friends it is still very easy for me to feel alone due to things that sometimes seem a bit beyond my control. My parents, who had similar experiences growing up in New Zealand can still be a bit that way too even though they now have a rather good group of friends. You are still really young and meeting people is about connecting so you might actually have luck meeting friends if you make more time for doing the things you enjoy that can be enjoyed doing with other people.
Odyssey Posted October 18, 2009 Posted October 18, 2009 To me, whether or not someone becomes a lifelong friends (or continues to be a good friend) comes down to whether or not both sides want to continue being friends no matter how drastically circumstances changed. This is very true, i think i am very lucky to still have a good friend since primary school (aka 'elementary' to ya'll north american folks)...wow 25 years now. But it's plenty of hard work by both of us! However, all my friends during university, i have totally lost touch with now ... A few friends i have drifted away from for over 10 years, and i have recently bumped into again, and the connection (chemistry) is still there - right where we left off. I guess growing up in a small town helps a lot. Everyone knows somebody here, if they haven't moved away, people will meet again. Also have the disadvantage of seeing your ex again, as i found out.
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