fofiffs Posted October 17, 2009 Posted October 17, 2009 Well its been a rough long 7 months since the ex left. The back story is my ex left then 3 weeks later got with some other guy. That lasted for like 3 months then she get with some other guy after. Don't know how long that lasted but I know they arent together anymore with the second rebound. I did the begging, crying, etc the first few months then slowly started moving on. She contacts me about a month ago telling me that she misses me, been thinking about me and that i was the only good thing she's ever had. At first I ignored her but eventually emailed her back. We talked for a few days with back and forth emails. She tells me that she wants to be friends but I wanted nothing to do with it then I go straight back to NC. Well today I found out that she is getting married to her other ex from like 3 years ago this coming december. She was also engaged to this man then she left him. The funny thing is that when I met her she was pregnant. From there we talked then it became serious with me and her. This was like two years ago. So anyways that whole time i started falling harder and harder for her even though I knew she was going to have a baby. From that moment I was there for her throughout the appointments and during the time when she had the baby. Yes I was there through it all even at the time of the birth. I really loved her and the baby. I gave up so much for the both of them and I loved the baby dearly. I knew the baby was not mine but I felt like i was the father of the baby. I was emotionally attached to her. So when she left she told me that I will always be daddy to the baby. I was so lost and confused when she left cuz I just missed her so much and the baby. Well fast forward to a month ago when she contacted me. She told me that the baby might not be the father who she thought it was. She told me it may be the ex that she is getting married to in december. She said that they were just friends and nothing more. Since last month I have been strict NC. I find out today that she madly in love with her old ex that shes with now and that ahe is really happy that they are a family. This is what she told me all the time before she left me. She always wanted that family and I gave it to her. Oh and supposedly they are going to do a DNA test to make sure its his. So now I just really don't know what to feel. I just feel so used. I had lost my job and moved back in with my parents cuz I spent so much on her and the baby. She never once worked while we were together. I'm not really looking for any answers because I feel like I got my closure. I just want to know what you LSers think about this whole ordeal. To me she is a woman with no integrity and has big time insecurities. She just can't be by herself and always wants someone to be there for her. I am just completely exhausted and 100% done with all the bull**** and lies. Sorry for the long post.
Lamak Posted October 18, 2009 Posted October 18, 2009 Sounds like you should have known something like this could have happened. You played with the snake and got bit. I don't know how you found this recent information out, but you should stop these sources. They'll only make you dwell.
JaggedRoad Posted October 18, 2009 Posted October 18, 2009 Definitely cut off all contact with her and tell her to respect your wish to have no contact. Constantly getting fed with updates on your ex is only going to delay your healing.
Author fofiffs Posted October 18, 2009 Author Posted October 18, 2009 Sounds like you should have known something like this could have happened. You played with the snake and got bit. I don't know how you found this recent information out, but you should stop these sources. They'll only make you dwell. Yeah I was just too blind to see. Well as for the sources, one of her friends had called me and told me, She said if I don't believe her go check my exes' myspace. Well stupid me tried to fight the urge so bad but ended on her page. I was somewhat hurt after reading what she had put on there but at the same time I was expecting it but just not from her ex. The funny thing is that while I was with her, he always tried to get back with her even after 3 years they had broken up.. She always told me there was just nothing there for him. What just really bothers me the most is that I am still so attached for the baby. I mean, I was there throughout the whole ordeal. Before and after the birth. I use to stay up late at night and not get any sleep taking care of this baby like she was mine. It still hurts not being able to see the baby. Its just funny cuz she was so sure that the baby was the ex before me. Now all of a sudden that it could be the ex she was with 3 years ago..
Author fofiffs Posted October 18, 2009 Author Posted October 18, 2009 Definitely cut off all contact with her and tell her to respect your wish to have no contact. Constantly getting fed with updates on your ex is only going to delay your healing. I had off all types of contact for her. After the second month when she first left. I was just done with everything and told her I wanted nothing to do with her. Well 4 month later thats when she had contacted me which was last month. And since thenI've been back to complete NC. Then her friend calls and tell me that she's back with her other ex. Its been a crazy 7 months for me. It doesn't hurt as bad like it was in the beginning. ITs just that I feel completely used the whole time I was with her.
contax Posted October 18, 2009 Posted October 18, 2009 Well its been a rough long 7 months since the ex left. The back story is my ex left then 3 weeks later got with some other guy. That lasted for like 3 months then she get with some other guy after. Don't know how long that lasted but I know they arent together anymore with the second rebound. I did the begging, crying, etc the first few months then slowly started moving on. She contacts me about a month ago telling me that she misses me, been thinking about me and that i was the only good thing she's ever had. At first I ignored her but eventually emailed her back. We talked for a few days with back and forth emails. She tells me that she wants to be friends but I wanted nothing to do with it then I go straight back to NC. Well today I found out that she is getting married to her other ex from like 3 years ago this coming december. She was also engaged to this man then she left him. The funny thing is that when I met her she was pregnant. From there we talked then it became serious with me and her. This was like two years ago. So anyways that whole time i started falling harder and harder for her even though I knew she was going to have a baby. From that moment I was there for her throughout the appointments and during the time when she had the baby. Yes I was there through it all even at the time of the birth. I really loved her and the baby. I gave up so much for the both of them and I loved the baby dearly. I knew the baby was not mine but I felt like i was the father of the baby. I was emotionally attached to her. So when she left she told me that I will always be daddy to the baby. I was so lost and confused when she left cuz I just missed her so much and the baby. Well fast forward to a month ago when she contacted me. She told me that the baby might not be the father who she thought it was. She told me it may be the ex that she is getting married to in december. She said that they were just friends and nothing more. Since last month I have been strict NC. I find out today that she madly in love with her old ex that shes with now and that ahe is really happy that they are a family. This is what she told me all the time before she left me. She always wanted that family and I gave it to her. Oh and supposedly they are going to do a DNA test to make sure its his. So now I just really don't know what to feel. I just feel so used. I had lost my job and moved back in with my parents cuz I spent so much on her and the baby. She never once worked while we were together. I'm not really looking for any answers because I feel like I got my closure. I just want to know what you LSers think about this whole ordeal. To me she is a woman with no integrity and has big time insecurities. She just can't be by herself and always wants someone to be there for her. I am just completely exhausted and 100% done with all the bull**** and lies. Sorry for the long post. I feel your pain. I think the first mistake was getting involved with a girl that was not healed. A preganant girl. It sounds like she rebounded with you, then rebounded from you...twice. It's all bull****. You deserve better...I suggest never to talk to her again. My girl rebounded after our 5 years...If I were to hear she rebounded again after him, I'd be hurt again...cause I'm not even healed. These girls are not worth anything...she's gonna be a problem for everyone in her life. You can laugh at her future husband. You proved again why never to break n/c. You deserve better....keep healing, and doing well. I too am alone tonight, thinking of my ex at times...I'm n/c 6 months - till forever. And ya..what you said about these people always having to be with others....screw them..it's like so easy. I feel like I should be with someone too...problem is I don't like just everybody..I can't just get with anyone..seems like some people can. Bottom line - be good to yourself and the best you can be....success is the best revenge.
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