t0ri Posted October 17, 2009 Posted October 17, 2009 (edited) I don't understand my ex. He has text me once a month since July. We broke up for good in April, so we had nearly 3 months of NC. I never contact him first. His monthly text came in today, with his usual: "hey." I wrote back saying what's up like five hours later (because I'm fine with LC), and I haven't heard back yet. I know if he missed me or wanted me back, he'd tell me. I'm definitely not thinking that's what is going on, but I want to know what the point is of him texting me sporadically? To check up on me? To see if I respond? Well if those are the reasons, why is that necessary? Why bother. I never have the desire to text him, so why does he. I want to hear from DUMPERS who do/have done this. Edited October 17, 2009 by t0ri
Darren09 Posted October 17, 2009 Posted October 17, 2009 my ex is doing same thing when i go quiet she texts me..... if i actually followed her up on things she says she would just keep rejecting me so i dont know why she does it. probably checking up on my life make sure shes not missing anything or just to make sure her ego is topped up? ahh duno
dianna Posted October 17, 2009 Posted October 17, 2009 (edited) same thing here..gosh ..wtf ..who knows what the hell goes on his mind Edited October 17, 2009 by dianna
fofiffs Posted October 17, 2009 Posted October 17, 2009 Screw the exes. They just want to make sure that your still pinning for them and will always be an option for them. Don't believe what they say..It's all lies from my experience.
Author t0ri Posted October 17, 2009 Author Posted October 17, 2009 He started small talk with me, as usual. I finally asked him why he randomly decides to text me from time to time and he replied saying he just thought he'd say hi, see how I've been. Hmm. I really had the urge to tell him I miss being his friend. I have never, since the breakup, told him I missed him, still love him, or anything of the sort. But for some reason I wanted to let him know I miss being his friend. I didn't. And I shouldn't tell him that, right?!?!?!
JaggedRoad Posted October 18, 2009 Posted October 18, 2009 Yeah, don't tell him that you miss him, love him, or anything that will make him feel wanted.
boogieboy Posted October 18, 2009 Posted October 18, 2009 he does it to make sure you answer. Its an ego boost mostly. Dont respond to him next time and watch how he reacts.
Author t0ri Posted October 18, 2009 Author Posted October 18, 2009 he does it to make sure you answer. Its an ego boost mostly. Dont respond to him next time and watch how he reacts. What would he do? I ignored him once, and I didn't notice any reaction. And honestly, I don't understand why he needs an ego boost from me because I'm absolutely positive he has girls that like him (and I'd bet he hooks up with them).
Author t0ri Posted October 18, 2009 Author Posted October 18, 2009 And the last thing he said to me, "Well if you decide to go out tonight let me know." W.T.F.
TheLoneSock Posted October 18, 2009 Posted October 18, 2009 He probably misses you a tad, or just wants to keep you around per say. He could also just be trying to stay on your mind in some way, wether he gets a response from you or not. To some people, if you're thinking about them, wether it's good or bad thoughts, that's enough for them. Clearly it's working though...
Lamak Posted October 18, 2009 Posted October 18, 2009 Block the texts and get on with your life. By even reading you're only bringing up questions you won't get answers to. You're just wasting your time and emotions.
boogieboy Posted October 18, 2009 Posted October 18, 2009 What would he do? I ignored him once, and I didn't notice any reaction. And honestly, I don't understand why he needs an ego boost from me because I'm absolutely positive he has girls that like him (and I'd bet he hooks up with them). It makes people feel good knowing they are wanted. he would keep texting you if he feels he's not getting your attention. He will start texting you things he knows you want to hear to get you to respond.
Author t0ri Posted October 18, 2009 Author Posted October 18, 2009 (edited) WOW! So. To make a long story shorter, my ex and I met up tonight at a bar he was at with a friend. He wouldn't stop staring at me, told me how beautiful I looked, that he missed me, was so glad to see me, kept hugging me, and we somehow ended up holding hands and flirting nonstop. And honestly? It felt as if there had been no time lapse between seeing each other. It felt natural, like I was home again...as lame as that sounds. But...he was inebriated. As we were walking back to my car (to go back to his apartment with friends), he needed to pee. So the smart ex of mine decides to pee by a car (in public). Low and behold, a cop drives by, sees him, arrests him, and takes him to J A I L. I'm shocked, and talk to the cop about how ridiculous that is, and he just hands me all of my ex's belongings and says, "He pissed me off. He's going to jail." So my ex is sitting in the back of the cop car mouthing, "I'm sorry" to me. So off he goes to jail. I go talk to a bail bondsmen and can't post his bail because I'm unemployed. So... I'm stuck with his keys and will be forced to see him again. Earlier today?! I N E V E R would have anticipated me seeing him tonight after not having done so in... 6 months!!!!!! Let alone me seeing him go to jail. Hmm... Edited October 18, 2009 by t0ri
TheLoneSock Posted October 18, 2009 Posted October 18, 2009 Wtf were you doing? There's no way in hell you're going to get over him. You don't want to.
NopeNah Posted October 18, 2009 Posted October 18, 2009 I think the cop saved you from having "ex-sex".
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