ecm Posted October 17, 2009 Posted October 17, 2009 Can people have crazy, unbelievable chemistry with someone but have no feelings? I mean, I know you can have good...er... "relations", but that's not what I'm asking. I guess, are chemistry and feelings that same? or different? What do you think?
carhill Posted October 17, 2009 Posted October 17, 2009 Easy way for me to gauge the dynamic in myself is, if we get on in person (and I often have this kind of 'instant rapport' with relative strangers), do they linger in my mind when/after we part company. This applies even with people I know well. That's how I separate chemistry from 'feelings'. YMMV BTW, this also applies to those with whom I've had sexual relations.
CLC2008 Posted October 17, 2009 Posted October 17, 2009 Can people have crazy, unbelievable chemistry with someone but have no feelings? I suppose two people can experience great physically chemistry towards each other, but not connect emotionally. Like carhill said, if the person lingers on your mind when you're not in his/her presence, and it's not mainly thoughts of lust and/or sexual nature, then that would indicate chemistry on an emotional level. I guess, are chemistry and feelings that same?Chemistry is lust and attraction, so in essence, yes.
justforfun Posted October 17, 2009 Posted October 17, 2009 I think the OP needs to elaborate or this just becomes a semantics debate.
alphamale Posted October 17, 2009 Posted October 17, 2009 i would say that with women chemistry is more intertwined with feelings whereas with men chemistry can just be sexual attraction. one could also make the case that chemistry creates feelings...
Author ecm Posted October 17, 2009 Author Posted October 17, 2009 I think the OP needs to elaborate or this just becomes a semantics debate. I'm looking for what people think of the two terms. What they mean, what's the difference, whatever. For instance, a person you're dating might have fancy skills . You may appreciate their fancy skills, but don't necessarily have the urge to jump on them them the minute they walk in the door. But if you DIDN'T like someone, would you still want to jump on them when you see them? Of course, people who don't really like each other engage in activities all the time, but do they attack each other if they don't like each other? Ok, fine.... I feel like I maybe could like a person (since my ex) but I DON'T feel the urge to throw him on the floor and get crazy. I feel like if I really liked him, I would want to. Ok? Ok...just for fun. I'm feelin a little pressure here.
caramel c Posted October 18, 2009 Posted October 18, 2009 I think its more rare but not impossible to find one without the other, they usually go hand in hand.
justforfun Posted October 18, 2009 Posted October 18, 2009 Ok, fine.... I feel like I maybe could like a person (since my ex) but I DON'T feel the urge to throw him on the floor and get crazy. I feel like if I really liked him, I would want to. Not necessarily. Why don't you just wait and see?
Soul Bear Posted October 18, 2009 Posted October 18, 2009 one could also make the case that chemistry creates feelings... And Visa Versa As long as the physical attraction is there, followed by a substantial emotional connection, I think that is when you start to feel 'Chemistry'
Soul Bear Posted October 18, 2009 Posted October 18, 2009 Ok, fine.... I feel like I maybe could like a person (since my ex) but I DON'T feel the urge to throw him on the floor and get crazy. I feel like if I really liked him, I would want to. You don't have to want to rip someones clothes off 24/7 when you see them for there to be a working chemsitry. Of course it's esential to want to rip there clothes off, but there is a time and a place for those feelings. Chemistry is named as such as it is certain elements working together to create a 'chemical reaction'- emotional and physical attraction and compatability=Chemistry:love:
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