bean1 Posted October 17, 2009 Posted October 17, 2009 Long story short, I am going through a rough pregnancy and the doctor has said no sex until a particular issue clears up. I think my DH is scared to touch me now as we went through a miscarriage scare. So aside from the obvious (oral), how do you stay intimate when you can't have sex? Of course there is porn too (which I don't have a problem with). I miss sex as well, it has been almost 2 weeks and we like to do it several times a week.
mem11363 Posted October 17, 2009 Posted October 17, 2009 Lots of affection, hugs/massages/spooning. Making a lot of physical contact and telling him daily you wishes you were able to - makes the situation completely ok. He/you won't like that things are limited - but will eliminate the rejection/indifference anxiety that typically happens in these situations. Rejection and indifference - the twin killers of love. Mix in a lot of the above with at least some actual - get over the finish line type of sex of any type - and a normal couple will have a lot less tension over this. Just went through a month of this type situation due to a pelvic inflammation thing. Long story short, I am going through a rough pregnancy and the doctor has said no sex until a particular issue clears up. I think my DH is scared to touch me now as we went through a miscarriage scare. So aside from the obvious (oral), how do you stay intimate when you can't have sex? Of course there is porn too (which I don't have a problem with). I miss sex as well, it has been almost 2 weeks and we like to do it several times a week.
Lucky_One Posted October 17, 2009 Posted October 17, 2009 I am assuming your doc just means intercourse and not orgasms? You can have "outercourse", where you keep your legs together, use lots of lube, and he just rubs between your thighs - like if you were in high school or something. You can use a small vibe for your clitoris, if you are allowed to orgasm. This works with your buttcheeks, too, with him laying on your back, but depending on how big your tummy is, you may not want to do this!!
Toodamnpragmatic Posted October 17, 2009 Posted October 17, 2009 Long story short, I am going through a rough pregnancy and the doctor has said no sex until a particular issue clears up. I think my DH is scared to touch me now as we went through a miscarriage scare. So aside from the obvious (oral), how do you stay intimate when you can't have sex? Of course there is porn too (which I don't have a problem with). I miss sex as well, it has been almost 2 weeks and we like to do it several times a week. OMG 2 weeks!!!!! How will you survive..... How long are you supposed to go without???? Geez if pregnant, expect at least 2 months if on the luck side (prior and post).
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