xpaperxcutx Posted October 17, 2009 Posted October 17, 2009 I have this friend, " musician guy", whom I've made a brief mention way back when, and we haven't seen each other in a while. He's pretty nice of a person, and has a very bright personality. He's in a band ( that currently lacks a drummer) and he also works freelance ( as a vocal coach). He's not jobless ( I know that's an important matter) so overall, I think he has his priorities straight. I suppose you can say we " went out" once ( although it felt more like " hanging out", but let's skip the semantics, shall we?). After our " hang out", he had made attempts to " ask me out" 5 times, all of which I either canceled or backed out on last minute. I know it was horrible of me but I had personal issues that I can't dispel or make known to him. Thereafter, we kind of lost contact, except for the occasional comments on Myspace ( He has asked me to add him on Facebook, but I never got around to it). Now I know I just made myself sound like a horrible person, I won't deny it, and I have made an attempt to apologize to him through email. Surprisingly, he forgave me, and still wishes to be my friend. Tonight after a long period of lack of contact, we made small chitchat on Aim. I was happy to talk to him, but he caught me off guard asking about my relationship status ( based on something I wrote on my Myspace). I cleared the air by saying no ( because what I had written was about my family) and proceeded to ask him the same question. I don't know why I was curious, but I got the same answer in reply. And then the big bomb shell, he asked me out again. His exact words were " So what would you say if I wanted to ask you out?" Flabbergasted as I was, it took me a few minutes to regain composure and respond with a question to somewhat defer the subject. The thing is I don't know how I feel about him. I always used to think I know how I feel about someone because I was always the kind to fall in "lust" head first. However, with Musician Guy, I'm at a lost with whether I want to proceed anything romantic with him. Like I've said, he's a great guy, sweet and charming ( although I would not describe him as the perfect image of a good boy, he can pull off the bad boy image; in case anybody decides this is another case of the girl not wanting the good guy). I haven't been in a serious relationship in almost 2 years, had only flings, and is actually kind of intimidated and scared about starting anything. I suppose everyone will say it's okay to see if there's any chemistry, but in the case of musician guy, I'm more than a little apprehensive if things starts getting serious. So I didn't say no, neither did I say yes, I just replied sure, and he signed off after informing me about calling in the next 2 days for plans for the coming weekend. What is my question you ask? I'm playing with semantics and thinking " oh we're going to hang out" however a little doubt is telling me that to him, it is going to be what he said it is. So then two people alone together doing something is a " date" as opposed to just " two friends hanging out"? Yeah, I'm confused, I haven't gone out with anyone in 3 months. I guess what I need is a reality check.
SoulSearch_CO Posted October 17, 2009 Posted October 17, 2009 If you agree to go out with him - it WILL BE A DATE.
boogieboy Posted October 17, 2009 Posted October 17, 2009 If youre not looking forward to going out on a date with him, dont lead him on by saying yes. He will be trying his best to impress you, and you wont be into it. Its not fair to him. Stay home.
SincereOnlineGuy Posted October 18, 2009 Posted October 18, 2009 "Loving a music man ain't always what it's supposed to be" ~ S. Perry
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