Pizzaman81 Posted October 17, 2009 Posted October 17, 2009 Ever felt oh so glad to end the relationship, then she/he calls and convinces you to take back. When you are doing it it felt right thing to do, then right after the 2nd chance, you feel.. "oh... hmm"
Faded Posted October 17, 2009 Posted October 17, 2009 Twice, now. it's the relationship that i was missing. the way things used to be. the "perfect" us. after I took her back - the realistic part set in, when the same issues that brought you apart were still there. People can get back together and be happy, but that doesn't happen till things are 100% changed for the better.
Turista Posted October 17, 2009 Posted October 17, 2009 In May, my dumbass ex broke up with me by email. I was sad, but after a day of being crazy mad at her, I accepted it. During the next week, I connected with a woman I met online, connected intensely and yet we both knew it would go nowhere. Then I went on a great camping trip and met a lot of women a week later. And then she called. Her rich family had convinced her she needed to make this work and she said all the right things, and that she would never let go again. I reluctantly fell for it... The sex was never the same - she wasn't engaging mentally - so it felt like I was making love to a robot. No eye contact, no enthusiasm, no statements of feeling, just sitting there and letting it happen or going through the motions to get me off without any passion. All the same problems were back within a week or two. And gradually she reneged on every single thing she had said to get me back. And then she dumped me by phone at the beginning of August. I admit to being moody around her. What she *wouldn't* admit was that her actions toward me had anything to do with it and she refused to give an inch on this front. And if you think I'm being nuts, check out the list of things she did on the thread about writing here instead of contacting your ex. She was a true nutjob and I dodged a bullet. However, for whatever reason, hearing her say all those things in May really hit me deep, and when she broke up with me in August, it shattered me, and I'm still not quite back together. If she knew that, she'd smile, she brags that all her ex-boyfriends want her back. And there are *so* many of them.
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