Boos Posted October 17, 2009 Posted October 17, 2009 OK, question for folks who are/have been in a committed relationship: Where is The Line? I see it runs the spectrum all the way from open marriages to people who don't want their significant other to even look at porn. Myself personally, I think it's ok to fantasize, but not ok to look at other people while you're doing it (I guess I'm in the "no porn" camp). But I can't say I have any real justification for that. My married sister wants me to go to a speed dating thing with her just for kicks, and her husband is cool with that. Mine would definitely not be (and no, I'm not going). So... where do you all draw the line? Open marriage, 3somes, flirting, emotional affairs, online/phone dating, porn, nothing? Just curious.
Athena Posted October 17, 2009 Posted October 17, 2009 So... where do you all draw the line? Open marriage, 3somes, flirting, emotional affairs, online/phone dating, porn, nothing? Just curious. Porn is fine, and NO to everything else, except SOME minor flirting not done in front of the spouse...
Neutrino Posted October 17, 2009 Posted October 17, 2009 IMO where we all draw the lines can change over the years (and from relationship to relationship) - so this is something that needs to be assessed on a case-to-case basis. I draw the line at not being honest and open in discussing any situation with the other, reaching a mutual agreement and following it.
lonelyandfrustrated Posted October 17, 2009 Posted October 17, 2009 I could not even imagine telling my H I was going to try out speed-dating. I guess I draw the line at dating other people when you're married. I have a very narrow view of marriage, though--everyone and everything that is not agreed to by the marriage partners is out. So yes, open marriage could be possible for some, but it would never work for me. lol, here's my line: If one of us says No, both of us say No.
Devil Inside Posted October 17, 2009 Posted October 17, 2009 The lines in a relationship are determined by the two people involved in the relationship. It really is all about respecting what the other person's limits are. Personally...I would not be ok with my wife speed dating. Besides...what a tease for those poor single guys.
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