jinx55 Posted October 17, 2009 Posted October 17, 2009 So I recently met this girl and we have become exclusive which is nice because I was single for 2 years after a break up with my ex who I was with for 5 years. I will give you the current situation that has me a bit confused. This new gf I am dating she is 22 and I am 24. I am her first serious bf, so I am taking things slowly with her making sure she feels comfortable and is happy. My dilemma however is even though we see each other 3-5 days a week depending on how busy we are, on the days we don't see each other she doesn't call or text me to ask how I am doing. Now I know I should do this myself which I do but I feel it should be on her as well a 50/50 approach. Yesterday (Friday) she has her usual plans with her friends and I respect that because I for one can't stand a friendless relationship for me or for her. But am I wrong in the sense that I feel like she should maybe call me for 10-20 minutes on the days we don't see each other to see how I am doing? I have done it in the past (calling her) but I made no effort yesterday to call or text her and the only thing I received from her was a text message asking about next weekend if I would be able to split the cost for some thing we are bringing to a party. Which I replied "ok" and nothing else and I didn't hear from her other than that. I guess my question is what should I do about this, and should I be worried here?
xpaperxcutx Posted October 17, 2009 Posted October 17, 2009 At 22, I'm guessing she is in college? Normally school around this time of the year is hectic, so if she's cramming for exams and reports, I would see how it's reasonable for why she doesn't call you. However I also took notice that you said this is her first exclusive relationship, so for her it may seem like a normal thing not to call in. I understand you're trying to make her as comfortable as possible but notice that in the process you're overthinking things just a little. Perhaps since this is a new relationship from your old one two years ago, you're a little tensed in regards to how a relationship should be? Are you happy in your relationship? If her not not calling is the only problem you have, then you should consider yourself lucky to have her. Most of the time people have bigger problems. I don't think you should have much to worry about unless she starts disappearing for long periods at a time.
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