wierdmunky Posted October 17, 2009 Posted October 17, 2009 Just wondering. How to do you make yourself look less available but available? I know good looking people can have their pick so any tricks to look more appealing?? ˆ-ˆ This is just for flirty fun, or in hopes to get a future guy friend (who is hot)
Author wierdmunky Posted October 17, 2009 Author Posted October 17, 2009 Hot guys are attracted to me like flies. Sort of like having a huge hunk of meat in my pocket. Maybe wear one of those statement T-shirts? Something like: Attention hot guys: I'll be your wingman Imagine you with this shirt..
Soul Bear Posted October 17, 2009 Posted October 17, 2009 Be sassy, sofisticated, don't write or text in sms talk, don't be trashy. Be reserved yet forward.... I guess you have to feel like you aren't going to settle for just anyone. Yu need to feel like a catch. No one else will see you like that unless you see yourself like that....
Johnny M Posted October 17, 2009 Posted October 17, 2009 Be sassy, sofisticated, don't write or text in sms talk, don't be trashy. Be reserved yet forward.... I guess you have to feel like you aren't going to settle for just anyone. Yu need to feel like a catch. No one else will see you like that unless you see yourself like that.... Actually, none of this really matters. Catching a hot guy is pretty simple. All you need to do is be extremely hot yourself.
TheLoneSock Posted October 17, 2009 Posted October 17, 2009 Actually, none of this really matters. Catching a hot guy is pretty simple. All you need to do is be extremely hot yourself. Agreed. If that doesn't work: "The quickest way to a man's heart is through his stomach." It's true.
alphamale Posted October 17, 2009 Posted October 17, 2009 If that doesn't work: "The quickest way to a man's heart is through his stomach." dude, i ain't dating any skank just cause she can make the best pot roast in the world
Skump Posted October 17, 2009 Posted October 17, 2009 How to do you make yourself look less available but available? I know good looking people can have their pick so any tricks to look more appealing?? Don't be juvenile, for one. If I felt as though someone were playing me, I'd lose my interest immediately. Forget about "tricks." Women overcomplicate the process of attracting men. All non-****head men, hot non-****heads included, are basically looking for the same thing - an attractive woman who is kind and has intellectual vitality. Looks are important, but once you've satisfied the "attractive" requirement, the marginal value of additional hotness is far more minimal than most women think, at least for any guy considering a LTR. Have you ever noticed how many hot guys have girlfriends who aren't as attractive? (and vice versa) Hot people have nothing to prove, and often value hotness less than an average person accordingly. However, character, personality, intellectual spark, etc., are every bit as important to "beautiful people," and these are the virtues that really sustain a relationship. So you're not "hot?" (whatever the hell that even means - remember when the tubbo from NYPD Blue was voted "hottest man of the year" back in the 90s? Attitude has a *lot* to do with "hotness") Maybe you're a really interesting person? Maybe you're enthusiastic about a subject Hypothetical Hot Guy is really into? Work on creating a human connection and see what develops. Relationships have a way of building momentum, and the physical appeal of a mate is always affected by a partner's level of affection for that person.
TheLoneSock Posted October 17, 2009 Posted October 17, 2009 dude, i ain't dating any skank just cause she can make the best pot roast in the world It was just a figure of speech, relax. And why assume she has to be a skank in order to cook well? That statement seems very condemning. I've been with more than one good looking girl that can cook.
alphamale Posted October 17, 2009 Posted October 17, 2009 It was just a figure of speech, relax. And why assume she has to be a skank in order to cook well? That statement seems very condemning. I've been with more than one good looking girl that can cook. that was my point. looks have nothing to do with cooking ability
TheLoneSock Posted October 17, 2009 Posted October 17, 2009 that was my point. looks have nothing to do with cooking ability I never said they did.
boogieboy Posted October 17, 2009 Posted October 17, 2009 If he is a friend of yours, and you know him, and he hasnt made a move on you already, youre not going to get him no matter what you do.
justforfun Posted October 17, 2009 Posted October 17, 2009 In fact my girlfriend used them on me. :laugh::laugh:
justforfun Posted October 17, 2009 Posted October 17, 2009 Have you ever noticed how many hot guys have girlfriends who aren't as attractive? (and vice versa) Hot people have nothing to prove, and often value hotness less than an average person accordingly. However, character, personality, intellectual spark, etc., are every bit as important to "beautiful people," I agree. I have never had a bf that my friends have considered 'good looking enough' for me. Physical attraction has always been important to me and there has to be some of that initially, But the better the persons qualities the more attracted to them and strangely the more physically attracted I am to them. and these are the virtues that really sustain a relationship. . Physical attraction though is also needed to sustain a relationship. I think we sell ourselves short if we settle for anything less. And if we say we do then we are lying. Just because your partner gets fatter and more wrinkly as you get older. They may be less attractive to other people but they are still physically attractive to you. So attraction doesn't go anywhere or get replaced by all these other virtues.
TheLoneSock Posted October 17, 2009 Posted October 17, 2009 So justforfun I'm going to assume you're beautiful then if you're always with guys that aren't 'up to par' with you attractiveness wise. I require pics for proof though. Mwahaha.
Johnny M Posted October 18, 2009 Posted October 18, 2009 So you're not "hot?" (whatever the hell that even means - remember when the tubbo from NYPD Blue was voted "hottest man of the year" back in the 90s? Attitude has a *lot* to do with "hotness") Maybe you're a really interesting person? Maybe you're enthusiastic about a subject Hypothetical Hot Guy is really into? Work on creating a human connection and see what develops. Relationships have a way of building momentum, and the physical appeal of a mate is always affected by a partner's level of affection for that person. Okay, let's get real. If she's "not hot", she needs to start considering guys who are more in her league....in other words, guys who are also not hot. I don't care what her personality is like or how "interesting" she is. Looks are the most important thing to men and anyone who says otherwise is lying...either to himself or to others. Hot guys usually go for hot girls....that's just how it works. 99.9% of straight men would pick a gorgeous girl with a boring personality over an average-looking girl with an amazing personality.
Author wierdmunky Posted October 18, 2009 Author Posted October 18, 2009 ok so I'll post a pic for 24 hours only, and we can see what "range" of hot guy I'd be able to "get" if any... I was saying for a flirty fun time, and not a serious relationship. Just seeing what works in the playing field and what doesn't.
TheLoneSock Posted October 18, 2009 Posted October 18, 2009 Yeah, you're a cutie. I'd date you as far as looks go.
Soul Bear Posted October 18, 2009 Posted October 18, 2009 (edited) Actually, none of this really matters. Catching a hot guy is pretty simple. All you need to do is be extremely hot yourself. Not true. A girl can be the hottest lady in the world, but if she opens her mouth and all that come out is bubbles I'm not interested. Only shallow people who feel like their whole life is based on how good looking their partner is think like that. I'm pretty hot, as far as guys go (that's right, I said it), and I certainly wouldn't settle for a good looking girl unless she had most of those qualities listed. As I said before, if your a good looking person, but you have low self esteem, no one else is going to take you as a prize if you don't feel that way about yourself. Life is a mirror, it reflects right back at you what you project. Edited October 18, 2009 by Soul Bear
Johnny M Posted October 18, 2009 Posted October 18, 2009 Not true. A girl can be the hottest lady in the world, but if she opens her mouth and all that come out is bubbles I'm not interested. Well, if she's a complete idiot, than I agree with you. Who'd want to date a woman with whom you can't even have a meaningful conversation that lasts more than 30 seconds...However, no matter how smart a girl may be, if she doesn't meet a man's minimum criteria for physical attractiveness, it's not going anywhere. In other words, looks are a necessary but not sufficient component of a woman's overall attractiveness. And please don't give me any sanctimonious "only shallow people care about looks" BS. If you are indeed a hot guy as you assert, and not socially inept, chances are you're not dating average-looking girls.
justforfun Posted October 18, 2009 Posted October 18, 2009 In other words, looks are a necessary but not sufficient component of a woman's overall attractiveness. I absolutely agree with that. It's the same for me. And if we're honest looks can compensate for what's on the inside more than what is on the inside being able to compensate for looks. It won't last. But you often see good looking men with hot dumb women. Find me a hot man with a smart ugly one! :laugh::laugh: And the sanctimonious BS defies basic human nature.
CaliGuy Posted October 18, 2009 Posted October 18, 2009 You smile and say hi to me. That usually works Being confident is a huge turn on.
You'reasian Posted October 18, 2009 Posted October 18, 2009 dude, i ain't dating any skank just cause she can make the best pot roast in the world Skank is a bad choice of words.
WineCountry Posted October 18, 2009 Posted October 18, 2009 dude, i ain't dating any skank just cause she can make the best pot roast in the world Teh heh.....he said "skank". And what if she makes a mean 5 course meal? Pot roast..bleh.
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