mortensorchid Posted October 16, 2009 Posted October 16, 2009 I would like some others' feedback on this question, based on my and everyone else's past experiences. You're on an online dating website (whichever of your choice). There is a feature on most websites where someone can send you a "wink" (called other things on other sites like a smile or a rose or something). I have found in the past that those who simply send a wink to someone are not all that serious. If anything, they turn out to be real psychos. I had one guy send me a wink who sounded alright, who then proceeded to question me on the phone about my sexual history and texted me the next day with "F--- you w----". That's an extreme example, I promise you, but others seem to not be as serious when they send you a wink. I also apply this to my experiences with IMs on some sites. There was one guy that I met who seemed quite insecure upon our meeting. I went back to the same website and dismantled the IM feature because it was hosing up my computer. He seemed to become angry about this, sending me an email telling me that he didn't like being ignored. RED FLAG. I blocked him. I seem to have had my best experiences based on the initial contact being an email. Just something simple like "Hi, nice to meet you", something that's obviously not sexual. What do others think?
BCCA Posted October 16, 2009 Posted October 16, 2009 First, Im not a big fan of online dating sites. With that said, I think that there is a reason people just send winks or whatever. I think MOST of the guys I talked to about online dating gave me the same complaint: no one returns my emails at all. I know some guys who have revamped their profile over and over, and followed how to guides about sending emails, etc...and still, nothing. I know women dont get 100 emails a day, thats a total exxagerartion. BUT they probably get at least a few, and probably at least 15 or so a week. Men generally get 0. With that said, I think a lot get tired of even boterhing to write an email that wont get returned, and think if they can get a response on the wink, and least they might have a shot. Again, it IS lame, but still. Online dating HEAVILY favors women, IMO.
OpenGL Posted October 16, 2009 Posted October 16, 2009 I don't even know why I'm even responding to this topic, I guess I'm bored or I'm being generous today. But let me run it down to you. As stated above, unless you are a 9 or 10 in looks, men will generally get reply rates in the single digits. If you are a 5 or under, you will get less than a 2% reply rate. This is regardless of how well your profile is written or how well your emails are written. So in this case, men play the law of large numbers and just send out 100's of winks or copy and paste emails a day. Basically the market place has forced men to do this to see any kind of tangable results.
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