DustySaltus Posted October 16, 2009 Posted October 16, 2009 The past few days have been hard for me so I came up with a list I need to follow in order to "Man Up". Hopefully this helps someone else down the line. 1. Remove everything from your life that reminds you of them. Delete, Burn or Throw everything out that reminds you of them. 2. Go look at yourself in the mirror and yell at yourself for a good 3-5 minutes. Get all the frustration out. Then look at away and look back again for 3-5 minutes and give yourself a nice inspirational speech...always ended with a wink and point towards the mirror..works for me. 3. Set up realistic short and long term goals for yourself. Sometimes we get involved in a relationship where all of our energy went towards that other person instead of ourselves. It's time to refocus it. 4. Remember what mistakes you have made and LEARN FROM THEM. 5. Do something that you always wanted to do but never had the chance to when you were with your EX. It doesn't matter what it is, as long as it makes YOU happy. 6. Resist the urge to contact them. Do 50 pushups, call a friend, run around the block. Remember you can't control someone else's feelings. If they want you, they'll coming running...it's been said on here a thousand times. But this is about realizing that you don't need other people to validate who you are as a person. You need to love yourself before you love anyone else. 7. Make a list. When you feel the urge to contact them or just feel bad in general, make a list of all the things they did to you. Keep it handy and repeat it like a mantra when those feelings come back. 8. Date when you feel the time is right. Remember to go out with NO EXPECTATIONS and to treat the new person with a clean slate. No comparisons, just good company. And smile...be confident. 9. Clean yourself up, go pick up some new clothes, get a new haircut....something that makes YOU feel good again. Take care of yourself, if you don't who will? 10. Don't make the same mistakes. Learn from your past relationship. As we get older we accumulate more and more knowledge of the opposite sex and realize what we want and what we don't want. Don't ever settle....
ladymistique Posted October 16, 2009 Posted October 16, 2009 Right on, Dusty! Thanks for that, I'm sure everyone will benefit. I know I will .
Lamak Posted October 16, 2009 Posted October 16, 2009 I've done all of these things except 6. Since we go to the same school I run into her every 2 or 3 days, but other than the quick hello, it's strict NC.
Turista Posted October 16, 2009 Posted October 16, 2009 I posted my list of reasons why I'll never go back to my ex here in the thread for writing there instead of to the ex... That, and I'm learning to sing Ugly Kid Joe's _Everything About You_ in case I run into her at a karaoke bar in the future (not at all unlikely alas)... Though I guess I should be careful because when I sang _Used to Love Her_ when she showed up last year, we ended up back together that night...
Tamia78 Posted October 17, 2009 Posted October 17, 2009 Great list! I'm working my way thru all of them......except #2's winking and pointing thing. --T
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