jon dough Posted October 16, 2009 Posted October 16, 2009 Seems 98% of all the threads here, and all the posters here are women having A's with MM... Where are the OM? how can i get good balanced advice when almost everyone is a woman here? and for the men who are here....they dont seem to be single... am i the only single guy in a EA/PA with a MW? i feel i am
Confused4Now Posted October 16, 2009 Posted October 16, 2009 Seems 98% of all the threads here, and all the posters here are women having A's with MM... Where are the OM? how can i get good balanced advice when almost everyone is a woman here? and for the men who are here....they dont seem to be single... am i the only single guy in a EA/PA with a MW? i feel i amI was a MOM but I got my divorce and I'm now single. I still have contact with my MW. So you can say I'm part of the 2%
Author jon dough Posted October 16, 2009 Author Posted October 16, 2009 in the same breath: Where are the married women having EA/PA with single guys? its just odd that everyone on these sites seems to be married...or they used to be.
confusedinkansas Posted October 16, 2009 Posted October 16, 2009 I don't understand why a married person would want to have an affair with a single person. You're single - Be single - Be with your single friends & meet single women. My X-MM was married when we met. But the second time around for our affair, he was single. He was free to see anyone he wanted. His reasoning for not dating single women (at the time) was that he was getting over his divorce & I was comfortable. HIND SITE....He's a COMMITMENT PHOBE! Even his next relationship after mine was with a married woman. Is that why single people have affairs with someone that's married - Are they commitment-phobic & this is SAFER!
MistyK Posted October 16, 2009 Posted October 16, 2009 There are others - stampdaddy for example. You just have to stick around awhile. You can also search through old threads.
NoIDidn't Posted October 16, 2009 Posted October 16, 2009 Are you under the impression that only those that have walked in your shoes could give you good sound advice? That only limits your perspectives. And not to mention, most of the relationship sites on the net are filled with women. Even the ones dedicated to the married side of the affair. Mostly women. Do you not have anyone IRL that you can talk to about your dealings with this MW? I've only had one friend that specialized in dating married women, but he made it a point to not fall in love. He felt his job was to give them what their Hs weren't. Sorry, that probably wasn't very helpful to you. Don't discount posters just because they haven't walked in your shoes, though. You'll never find someone who fits your exact situation.
Woggle Posted October 16, 2009 Posted October 16, 2009 Most men who date married women don't let emotions get involved so they don't post on message boards.
spiraling downward Posted October 16, 2009 Posted October 16, 2009 (edited) Seems 98% of all the threads here, and all the posters here are women having A's with MM... Where are the OM? how can i get good balanced advice when almost everyone is a woman here? and for the men who are here....they dont seem to be single... am i the only single guy in a EA/PA with a MW? i feel i am It's been over 6 months since my affair with MW started... (I was MM at that time.) We've now been living together for about 2 months... her divorce has been messy... but her soon to be ex, has not been making very smart moves in the whole deal. He's gonna get hammered in the court. Don't shed a tear for this bloke though... he has had his squeeze around now since about the middle of July... He's doing fine. john dough... I might add, it's been a long hard road.... Edited October 16, 2009 by spiraling downward
JumpinJimmy Posted October 16, 2009 Posted October 16, 2009 I, as well, am a former OM. FYI, most single men do not post to online dating advice boards...... It is not in their nature.
bentnotbroken Posted October 16, 2009 Posted October 16, 2009 I don't understand why a married person would want to have an affair with a single person. You're single - Be single - Be with your single friends & meet single women. My X-MM was married when we met. But the second time around for our affair, he was single. He was free to see anyone he wanted. His reasoning for not dating single women (at the time) was that he was getting over his divorce & I was comfortable. HIND SITE....He's a COMMITMENT PHOBE! Even his next relationship after mine was with a married woman. Is that why single people have affairs with someone that's married - Are they commitment-phobic & this is SAFER! :eek:Makes about as much sense as married people having affairs with each other...no sense at all. You're married be married....be with your spouse.
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