dashing daisy Posted October 16, 2009 Posted October 16, 2009 I would say I'm about 80% over my ex, but I'm not completely over it. There's a part of me that doesn't want to get over him. The part of me that remembers "what we had" and wants it back. How do I make that part go away? Or convince myself it's not worth holding on to? How did you guys do it? Are there things I can just repeat to myself when I miss him?? It's been 3 months and I'm still not interested in dating anyone else. When guys flirt with me I flirt back but I think in my head I'd rather be with him. I haven't dated anyone else. I can't believe it's been months and I still cry about it. Not that often, but still. Sometimes I just read over our old conversations or look at pictures and I just cry. I've never been so hung up on a guy before. This is ridiculous. He's just one person...what the heck is wrong with me?!!?
jadednconfused Posted October 18, 2009 Posted October 18, 2009 I totally understand how you feel. I don't really know what the situation is or why you guys broke up...but you broke up for a reason right? I think for some reason our minds like to play tricks on us when we are heart-broken. Remembering all the good times, can't seem to remember what was so bad about the bad times...or the realizing all your faults through it all and wishing you could start over and do things differently. But the truth is, everything happens for a reason, and someday you will find that reason. You just need closure, it takes time. It's okay to cry, it hurts when you lose someone you love. It's also scary, you probably think you won't ever feel that way again... but you will. You have to realize that, you should try to look ahead instead of thinking about the past. I know that is easier said then done, but maybe next time you want to read old conversations or look at old pictures, you should stop yourself. Do something to get your mind off of it, something that makes you happy. I hope you start to feel better soon!
Soul Bear Posted October 19, 2009 Posted October 19, 2009 This is good progress. It seems you are dealing with your breakup well and processing emotions properly. The one thing that you can try repeating to yourself is ''I'm a prize and I'm worth more than that.'' lol, I know it sounds silly, but try it. It helped me for sure. Start to see yourself as someone of high value. Eventually someone who deserves YOU will walk into your life and make you realise just why it dind't work with anyone else
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