smalls552 Posted October 16, 2009 Posted October 16, 2009 okay. so there's this guy at work that i've been crushing on for a while. we have a very flirty relationship. in the spring we were seeing each other for about a month and then i moved out of out of state for an internship and things ended. i come back this fall and things go back to the way they were, except we're not seeing each other, it's just the flirting at work, mostly on his end. he picks on me, he touches my back and arm when he walks by, i catch him looking at me, he directs his conversation to me when we're talking in a group of people, etc etc etc. but the thing is... he's dating someone right now! i guess they've been dating a few weeks. i found out today at work and he was telling me and this other girl about his new girl. i tried very hard to not show my disappointment, but i think he noticed. a little later he asked when i worked again and i told him and he said he was going to bring me coffee. (that's kind of how things got started in the spring, we used to bring each other coffee to work, but since i got back we haven't done it.) the other girl i mentioned before asked why i was getting coffee and he replied "oh well, we kind of have a thing with that." the rest of the day he continued like normal with the flirting, just with a little more touching. so... what the hell is going on???? i can't tell if he's really genuinely interested or just a big flirt. i've heard he dates a lot, but he has also had some long term relationships. HELP ME! i don't want to waste my time if nothing's going to come of it...
TheLoneSock Posted October 16, 2009 Posted October 16, 2009 He likes you, and probably wants to **** you. Not saying that's ALL he wants but there's pretty obvious signs. Dating for 3 weeks isn't anything, he might as well be single. If you like him, go in for the kill. Don't be scared. You may regret it later if you don't. Have fun!
Author smalls552 Posted October 16, 2009 Author Posted October 16, 2009 okay, maybe i just don't get guys, but if he's interested why bring up the new girl and how he thinks she's cute and how glad he is that he's found someone who's work schedule is compatible with his (he works A LOT)? i have to work with him all day tomorrow and i'm not sure how i should really act... he went out to dinner with this girl last night, should i ask how it went? not sure if i would want to hear...
phineas Posted October 16, 2009 Posted October 16, 2009 He's trying to see if you react. Trying to see if you act jealous. To see if you are interested in him.
Odyssey Posted October 16, 2009 Posted October 16, 2009 Sounds like he definitely likes you. But i can't answer whether he's the flirty type. The only way to tell, is to see if he behave the same way towards other people. Does he?
Author smalls552 Posted October 16, 2009 Author Posted October 16, 2009 honestly, i couldn't really tell you. where we work is almost all guys and when he has been around girls that i've seen, he is a bit flirty but nothing to the extent that he is with me. but again, that's only two or three other girls.
Agoraphobianebula Posted October 16, 2009 Posted October 16, 2009 He likes you but that doesn't mean he doesn't like the other girl he's going on a date with. Women tend to be "tunnel vision" types, they like one guy and zone in on that one guy. Men on the other hand are different. Often times, they can like and enjoy the company of multiple girls. In fact, they want the attention of multiple girls, so why give that up if they can get away with it?
phineas Posted October 16, 2009 Posted October 16, 2009 He likes you but that doesn't mean he doesn't like the other girl he's going on a date with. Women tend to be "tunnel vision" types, they like one guy and zone in on that one guy. Men on the other hand are different. Often times, they can like and enjoy the company of multiple girls. In fact, they want the attention of multiple girls, so why give that up if they can get away with it? I'd say it goes both ways. I've seen women date multiple men at once & men date multiple women. I've also seen men & women scope out a particular person & only expend energy on getting to know that person.
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