emptyme Posted October 16, 2009 Posted October 16, 2009 I will try to make this as short as possible with giving you a feel for my situation. I have a 2 year old child with my ex boyfriend. We broke up about a year ago. we were together for many many years prior but always on and off and technically "off" when i got pregnant. it was a horrible break up. (if you read my other post from many months back you will understand). Its been about 5 months of NO drama. I have tried my everything to get back with this man but have been UNsuccessful and gave up a while back. Since, i have healed dramatically and we have been having a very good civil relationship, communicating well when it comes to our child...ok, so a few months ago, over the summer, we actually got together on two occasions with our daughter. MY idea! brought her out to the zoo and the other was the beach. It was strictly for HER and nothing was mentioned about us..He has had a girlfriend for the bast 6 or so months but recently found out they broke up from someone. We haven't gotten together with her in a while and he recently asked if i wanted to go see a show for children with the 3 of us...Keep in mind he has stated several times a while ago that he could never see us being together because he has such a wall build up against me..I do still love him although he has hurt me terribly and he probably knows it although i don't show that in ANY way!!! My question is this...why would he ask me to do this? is he really just keeping the best interest of our child in his head or is it more of a test to see how we act together? also, being i was so hurt and rejected by him, do i go? on one hand i wanna say "FK that - we aren't together and doing so is just fake. our child is being brought up just fine and doesn't need to be with both of us at the same time in order to satisfy our her well being". its not like we are friends at all. we ONLY talk when its about her...BUT on the other hand, I'm thinking that maybe this is his way of getting back in...I'm not sure what to do. PLEASE help!!!!
Lamak Posted October 16, 2009 Posted October 16, 2009 It sounds like you're pretty angry with him still. He's probably doing it for your child and for himself as well, but at the same time there's no way to really figure that out. If you really feel that uncomfortable and confused with the whole situation just try to stay away from him. You're going to have to keep contact with him though, since a child is involved.
alasia Posted October 16, 2009 Posted October 16, 2009 Ok..I'm by no means an expert. In fact, I have almost no clue about exes...read my latest post and you'll see I';m still being strung along by MY ex. But - gut instinct in reading your post, is that he could be trying to just get on for your child, he could be trying to get back in with you, OR (and maybe most likely, if he's recently broken up from someone); he could just be looking for an ego boost. GF didn't want him, so he thought he'd try 'the ex' and see if she still fancies him. He may not be that much of a creep, I'm just guessing Does he see your child regularly without you being there? If so, then I'd be inclined to ask him to take your child to the day out on his own, but phrase it in a way that you're trying to give him an opportunity to spend some quality time with his child. Don't say you have other plans, or tell him to f**k off as you're not together anymore; I know if I said that to my ex, he'd accuse me of trying to guilt him into gettong back together Be bright, breezy, and if he keeps asking you to go with them, then maybe (only maybe) there may be more to it than just wanting to be civil for your child. I hope that helps, and makes some kind of sense
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