wonderinwhatsup Posted October 16, 2009 Posted October 16, 2009 We've been broken up for over 2 years but she continues to stay in touch with me, usually talking on facebook every few days or so. I just can't understand why she talks to me about her boyfriend and stuff. Does she want to be friends or is she just trying to rub my face in how she has a boyfriend and I don't currently have a steady chick? Thanks guys for the input. I wish I knew what to say to her because i do still have feelings for her. The other night she was talking about a band that we both listened to when we were going out and saying how their music reminds her of me.
Author wonderinwhatsup Posted October 16, 2009 Author Posted October 16, 2009 She always starts chatting with me on facebook or sends me a text.
JaggedRoad Posted October 16, 2009 Posted October 16, 2009 I should rephrase that question. Why haven't you deleted and blocked her?
Author wonderinwhatsup Posted October 16, 2009 Author Posted October 16, 2009 Hell man I don't know. I did when we initially broke up, but she essentially couldn't stand not being friends. I know I shouldn't care but as I said in the post I do still miss her. If I went and deleted her now it would just seem childish and immature. I just wish I knew what to say...
JaggedRoad Posted October 16, 2009 Posted October 16, 2009 If you still have feelings for her and all she's doing is blabbering about her boyfriend, then you should either tell her to shut up or delete her. She's treating you like a gay best friend.
Author wonderinwhatsup Posted October 16, 2009 Author Posted October 16, 2009 She doesn't talk about him a ton, but she does mention him. I just dont know if her sudden renewed interest in talking to me means she's not happy or if she misses me or whether she is just trying to keep her on my mind...
Lamak Posted October 16, 2009 Posted October 16, 2009 If she suddenly wanted to be with you again she would most likely just tell you. If you never properly went NC, you need to do so immediately.
Author wonderinwhatsup Posted October 16, 2009 Author Posted October 16, 2009 I did go NC for months. She would continue to text me. I didn't respond. But after a while I felt that I didn't care anymore so I began talking to her platonically. I guess thats a big mistake, but I didn't think I would still have feelings for her. but when she talks about how she never listens to "our band because it was special" and how she wants to hang out it slowly started making me miss her. What should I tell her because if I suddenly when NC it would seem rather nuts dontcha think?
Lamak Posted October 16, 2009 Posted October 16, 2009 You're not in the right state of mind, it doesn't matter what she thinks! You're going NC for your own benefit, not hers. You shouldn't want to talk to her platonically, because you guys broke up for a reason. That is the past, there are more people to have friendships without baggage out there. Don't tell her anything, just get with NC.
NSW768 Posted October 16, 2009 Posted October 16, 2009 this thread right here is great because this is exactly where i dont want to be in 2 years. and for you wonderin, whats the point of staying in contact. if u want to tell her you going NC, thats fine i guess, but u should just do it. why give her any more of your time or emotions when shes already hurt you so much
Author wonderinwhatsup Posted October 16, 2009 Author Posted October 16, 2009 NSW you're right. I guess I just didnt realize how weak it was making me look to her by even responding to her. It just blows because over time you forget what made you hate the person and only seem to remember the good times. I just gotta put her out of my mind and find some new hottie this weekend...
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