Passionate Lover Posted October 15, 2009 Posted October 15, 2009 I don't know what to do, am i wrong to be upset when my gf goes out dressing with a tiny skinny and her breasts showing excessively i mean it upsets me when she does and ive tried to talk to her about it and she says it makes her feel better because she has no self respect and it helps to make her feel better about her self. i'd like some advice, should i just let it pass or delve deeper into conversation with her about it. Thank you. EDIT, Title is a mess sorry.
Thornton Posted October 15, 2009 Posted October 15, 2009 Mini skirts and body-con (i.e. skin tight) dresses are fashionable right now - girls like to wear what's in fashion. Frankly, your gf's choice of clothes are her decision, not yours - it's a bit overly controlling if you think you have the right to tell her what to wear. After all, she was wearing the same wardrobe when she attracted you, was she not? But now you're in a relationship, suddenly you don't like what she wears? Perhaps it upsets you because you don't want other guys looking at her? That seems a little hypocritical, not to mention insecure on your part.
Author Passionate Lover Posted October 15, 2009 Author Posted October 15, 2009 (edited) Mini skirts and body-con (i.e. skin tight) dresses are fashionable right now - girls like to wear what's in fashion. Frankly, your gf's choice of clothes are her decision, not yours - it's a bit overly controlling if you think you have the right to tell her what to wear. After all, she was wearing the same wardrobe when she attracted you, was she not? But now you're in a relationship, suddenly you don't like what she wears? Perhaps it upsets you because you don't want other guys looking at her? That seems a little hypocritical, not to mention insecure on your part. I think maybe ur right but ive never seen her in cloths like that until a few month ago and im just a bit shocked, i am insecure i cant help it but i guess i have it. thank you for your advice i will take it on board. EDIT: I never tell her what she can and cant wear i have never done that once. i just tell her i dont like it. i would never stop her, so should i just not say anything and say she looks nice? Edited October 15, 2009 by Passionate Lover
Beefy88 Posted October 16, 2009 Posted October 16, 2009 Be honest, tell her that if you don't like the clothes, you don't like the clothes. But at the same time, also tell her that you think she's still beautiful eventhough she's wearing something that is not your style. Try not to be insecure, this might lead to being jealous and this is not a good thing in a relationship. You can be 'healthy jealous', which might open new doors in your relationship.
Jersey Shortie Posted October 19, 2009 Posted October 19, 2009 I bet you look at other women dressed just like she is regularly.
harmfulsweetz Posted October 20, 2009 Posted October 20, 2009 It's her choice. If she's comfortable, happy then nothing to do with you. You should love her no matter what-what bothers you about the clothes? If my man tried to tell me he didn't like my clothes, you know what I'd do? Wear them more often!
2sure Posted October 20, 2009 Posted October 20, 2009 Did she say the words: I have no self respect?? If she did, thats a huge problem and the way she dresses pales in comparison. But if those are your words, its an assumption. Other than her dress, are there any other indications that she has no respect for herself? Did she dress this way when you met her or is this something new?
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