littlebittle Posted October 15, 2009 Posted October 15, 2009 He broke up with me, but we've tried to remain friends. We are best friends, we do everything together, we tell each other everything. He is so kind and caring and supportive. He pays for me when we go out, he gives me his coat when he thinks I'm cold. He does so much to take care of me and protect me. But he can't be with me, and I know he doesn't feel the way I do. It's distracting me from my life and I'm becoming self destructive because it's hurting me so much. I need to walk away. It's come up before, that maybe we can't be friends. I know he doesn't want it to come to that. I know he's done everything he can try to make a friendship work, and to keep me in his life. I don't know how to let go of this. I want to just tell him we can't be friends anymore, but it feels so awful and permanent.
JaggedRoad Posted October 15, 2009 Posted October 15, 2009 Do what you have to do. Just tell him exactly how you feel.
ecm Posted October 15, 2009 Posted October 15, 2009 It sounds like he cares a lot about you. If being friends is hurting you, he should understand. Maybe if he doesn't have you around all the time as a friend, he'll realize he does want to be with you. But even if not, since it's hurting you, you have to think about yourself. Don't worry about hurting HIS feelings. Good luck
KSSDallas Posted October 15, 2009 Posted October 15, 2009 I've been in his shoes before...sort of... I was very very close to a guy friend of mine, but I couldn't see him in a romantic light. Our friendship suffered and even I hurt by trying to force it. I will always miss him and be sad that we cannot be friends, but I know without me in his life he was able to move on, meet, and marry the true love of his life. Your ex, will be sad to lose you...and who knows...maybe it won't be permanent, but it sounds like it will be better for both of you if you go ahead and seperate yourself from him for at least a while. You both probably need a new perspective.
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