Lion Posted October 15, 2009 Posted October 15, 2009 (edited) Hi, I'm a guy, 24 years old, just come out of a 2.5+ yr relationship. It's great to see this forum where guys and girls can share advice. I could use some advice regarding getting back together with my long-term girlfriend. Background I have known her for a long time and she is very special to me. I love her and just want her to be happy; I want to share my life with her. She has wanted this too but perceives herself to be "needy". A week ago she broke up with me: We exchanged texts the day after, I tried to be positive and wished her well in the future... since then I have restrained myself to NC and have been doing positive things for my life. Reasons she says we were not compatible: 1. She says she wants us to move in together, to take it to the next level. She wants to get married sooner than me. I said I don't want to move in yet, not ready, in the process of getting career on track, like living with my parents (they are not getting any younger and I value family time immensely). I said I only want to move in prior to marriage (years down the line). 2. She is worried I will break up with her again. I broke up with her a few months ago - basically I had lost my identity/ confidence as a result of being injured in a road accident. She looked after me very attentively. Having the accident made me realise how short life is- I worried that she was not the right girl for me and one evening, after doubting our future I broke up with her. I regretted this within hours but did not tell her until weeks of soul searching until I was sure she was the "one". I came to see her a week later and we met up a few times - however I said some quite offensive things about her - I was angry not ready to speak with her. Eventually she wanted to come and see me and we made up, then she went on holiday for some reflection time and when she got back we clicked again. I was so happy until two weeks ago. We both work in demanding jobs and only have time to meet up 2-3 times a week. I tried to show her I cared about our relationship Complication: We could not have sexual contact for a month because I had an unexpected infection (not STD) which has now healed. She said that me having this had nothing to do with the break up; I belive it disconnected us immensely, we have always had intense connection. If you guys need to know further info please just ask, as I am SURE I WANT a future with her. Thanks Edited October 15, 2009 by Lion
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